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RuneGuardian:
Whenever someone gives me a gift or otherwise does anything that would prompt gratitude, my mother will always ask me, "Did you tell them 'thank you'?" When I receive said gift/service with my mother present, Mom will turn to me with the giver standing right there within earshot and say, "Go tell her 'thank you' for your gift/whatever".

If I was a little kid, I could understand why she would do this. But I'm going on twenty and it's embarrassing, especially when my mom feels she has to remind me to thank someone when that person is right in front of me. It makes me look like I would never have said 'thank you' without my mother telling me to do so and I hate that. Then I look like some sort of ungrateful brat. She did it when I went to visit my aunt - right when we walked in the door, my mom said clearly and loudly, "Make sure you tell Aunt Martha 'thank you' for your Christmas present". It's so annoying and humiliating.

Does anyone else's parents do this? If so, how do you handle it? For the record, I have told my mom numerous times that I do not need her to remind me to thank someone for a gift, but talking to her is like talking to a wall.  >:(

Suze:
how about "reminding" her to say thank you for her gifts.  Beat her to the punch.  and when she tells you that she doesn't need reminding, that she is an adult.  Look her in the eye (literely) and tell her "so am I"

freakyfemme:
My parents do that too....which then gets my younger brother started, and if I say something about it to my parents, they're "just doing their job," and if I say something to my brother, they say he's "just teasing," and I'm "too sensitive."   ::)

Lisbeth:

--- Quote from: Suze on January 08, 2007, 09:42:27 PM ---how about "reminding" her to say thank you for her gifts.  Beat her to the punch.  and when she tells you that she doesn't need reminding, that she is an adult.  Look her in the eye (literely) and tell her "so am I"

--- End quote ---

Great solution!

Venus193:
I wish I had better news, but my mother did this until she died almost 2 years ago, and I'm 53.

Keep in mind that this makes her look far more ridiculous than it does you.

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