This didn't happen AT the funeral, but just before my oldest sister died. My bother was married on Saturday and on the way home from the wedding my VERY DRUNK oldest sister was asleep while her SOBER boyfriend of 2 weeks fell asleep at the wheel and drifted into the path of an oncoming semi. The semi driver didn't have time to react, so there was a head-on collision. Sister's boyfriend was killed instantly, but Sis was clinging to life in a coma.
On Monday, I went ahead and went to work as I needed to keep my mind off things and Mom said I wouldn't be allowed to see Sis anyway.... the damage was that bad. Background: Sis was a widow, her first husband had died when her son was 2, 10 years before the accident. So I'm walking out of the building and this female came up to me, she had gone to school with Sis, and apparently, they were not friends. Female asked if Sis knew boyfriend was dead, I said No, she was still in a coma. Female says, well don't tell her because then she'll have nothing to live for.
So.... I asked Female, You have kids right? she said yes 2 boys. I asked, "Which means more to you, your kids, or some guy you've dated for 2 weeks?" She says, well my kids of course! I said, Well maybe you can explain why ...when Sis has her parents, 8 sisters, 3 brothers and a 12 year old son... YOU think Sis had "nothing to live for"
?? My parents and siblings shut off Life support on Thursday and Sis passed away, the funeral was on Saturday, one week after our brother's wedding.
Then there was the person who claimed to be from M.A.D.D. who called my mother the Day SIS DIED to say Sis deserved to die because she was drunk. I watched my Mother fall to the floor in tears, and sob for hours curled up like a baby..... It broke her heart to hear that, and it broke my heart to see Mom that way. I have never supported M.A.D.D. since then, even though I know the organization is not responsible for the actions of one cold, heartless person, but every time I hear "M.A.D.D." I picture my Mother sobbing on the floor.
My Sis was 31 years old, she was beautiful, and looked like a cross between Sophia Loren and Raquel Welch in their primes.... She was the kind of person who lit up a room by walking into it, and the world had more color because she was in it. She was the best big sister ever, and Jan. 6th, she would have been 59 years old. Thank you for letting me share her memory with you.