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NFPwife

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Do you run an orphanage?
« on: February 15, 2015, 08:57:49 PM »
This happened a few years ago and has become a joke in our house/ family. I wish I'd had "That's an interesting assumption" at the time because I told the lady in question the truth (I have a truth problem.) The truth shocked her a bit.

I was at the big box warehouse shopping place and had a box of seven dozen eggs in the cart. I was pushing it along when a woman stopped me, gave me the gentlest look, (she might have lightly touched my hand) and said, "Oh, do you run an orphanage?" I said, "No. These are for my husband. He'll have these gone in three da... Oh wait! That's not enough! I need another box!" I took off to get another and left her standing there a little surprised.

When we need eggs, one of us will make a crack about going to get eggs for the orphans or about stocking up the orphanage. In fact we're making an orphan-run tomorrow.

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #1 on: February 16, 2015, 02:20:40 AM »
I remember before I had kids, I was at the grocery store and I bought the following cereal: 2 boxes of Fruity Pebbles, a box of Lucky Charms and a box of Cocoa Krispies. All cereal for children. The cashier asked "Oh, how many kids do you have?" And I replied "None. These are for me." He gave me a displeased and judgmental look. As if there weren't millions of worse transgressions I could be involved in.

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #2 on: February 16, 2015, 05:24:22 AM »
When I was about 7 years old, I used to help my mother with the grocery shopping for our family of nine. To save time, Mom had taught me how to buy certain things, and how to stack them in the shopping cart, while she went off and bought things that needed more care in their purchasing, like the meat and fresh vegetables.

So I'm standing there, loading the bottom of the cart with the 14 cartons of milk we would need for the next week, when a woman stops me. "Little girl," said in severe tones, "does your mother know what you are doing?"

Scared speechless, all I could do was hold out the list Mom had made, with 14 cartons of milk, 4 dozen eggs, 6 pounds of butter, 10 loaves of bread, etc., on it. She read it, then asked, "Is your family having company this week?"

And seemed a little stunned when I replied no.

(This was over 40 years ago, and it's a little weird that I still remember exactly how much of everything I had to get.)
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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #3 on: February 16, 2015, 06:04:17 AM »
The nosiness...it boggles the mind.

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #4 on: February 16, 2015, 07:26:04 AM »
You could:
*have a restaurant
*have a lot of cats who like eggs
*be running a breakfast event for your organization
*really, really like eggs
*be planning on egging a house
*be making the world record omelette

I really don't understand those that will stop a total stranger to ask them about what they are buying, in a malicious manner! I did stop someone at breakfast Saturday, because of her Mordor University sweatshirt.  8)
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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #5 on: February 16, 2015, 11:34:45 AM »
I remember before I had kids, I was at the grocery store and I bought the following cereal: 2 boxes of Fruity Pebbles, a box of Lucky Charms and a box of Cocoa Krispies. All cereal for children. The cashier asked "Oh, how many kids do you have?" And I replied "None. These are for me." He gave me a displeased and judgmental look. As if there weren't millions of worse transgressions I could be involved in.

As the cashier I would have said "whow you're lucky!", I rarely ever splurge financialy and sugary now and cereals falls on the "could live without" list  :'(.

Cashiers must see every combo of purchase there is so I don't see how they can still be surprised, today I bought two pack of ham, 2 of cookies, 2 bottles of laundry liquid and a pack of butter. The only thing this says is that there was some promo on the ham, cookies, detergent and I needed butter  :P
(It also says that I won't have to buy detergent for a year and it was BOGO so win!)

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #6 on: February 16, 2015, 11:47:30 AM »
My DD's daycare center is a co-op, so every family has a "job." Ours is to purchase snack every month - two weeks' worth of twice daily snacks for ~65 kids (yes, we get reimbursed!). It barely fits in one cart. Last time I did this errand, a random man glared at me and said, "I wish I could afford that much food." He huffed away without giving me a chance to respond, even if I'd wanted to.  ???
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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #7 on: February 16, 2015, 11:52:46 AM »
I find it so weird someone would make a comment, at a big box warehouse store of all places! (I'm thinking Sam's Club, Costco, etc..) Isn't the point of going there that you're probably going buy at least some food in bulk, even if it's only so you don't have to shop for peanut butter again this year?

I think commenting on what a stranger buys/has in their cart has to be one of the most pointless things to say ever.
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ezbliss

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #8 on: February 16, 2015, 12:20:14 PM »
Kind of a sidebar story, but “What Would You Do?” had a segment where the pharmacist (actor) commented very loudly about prescriptions people picked up (also actors).  Birth control pills, hemorrhoids, viagra, warts in private parts, etc.  Then they waited to see if other (real) customers would react.

Back to topic:  I think it’s kind of rude to comment on what’s in someone’s cart – unless you’re having trouble finding that item….”Oh, could you tell me where you found (whatever)?”

To insinuate or ask about a large quantity of something is just being nosey.  Maybe you’re shopping for neighbors, maybe you’re having a party, it’s really not the business of a stranger and I don’t see such inquiries as “idle chitchat”.



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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #9 on: February 16, 2015, 12:52:12 PM »
The only time I've ever commented on someone's groceries was to ask where they found something....and I've had people do the same to me.  There's a brand of cheap, really good frozen pizza here and I was buying one one day and a man in line behind me commented, "That looks good, where did you find it?"  I told him where nad that was the end of our interaction.  I can't even imagine commenting on what someone's buying in any other circumstances.  It's none of my business.
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camlan

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #10 on: February 16, 2015, 01:19:14 PM »
As to commenting on what's in other people's shopping carts--I'm very overweight. Several times I've had my cart full of snack cakes and chips and bags of candy--and nothing else. And someone had made a snarky comment along the lines of, "Do you *really* need all that junk food?"

To which my reply of, "Yep, sending off a care package to Afghanistan!" usually shut them up.

I wish I could remember "My, that's an interesting assumption!" before I leave the supermarket rather than 15 minutes later when I'm sitting in my car.

I am always amazed at the amount of time people spend looking at and judging other people. When I shop, I want to get in, get my stuff and get out. Casting value judgements on the other shoppers doesn't enter my mind.
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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #11 on: February 16, 2015, 02:05:50 PM »
So rude!  I hate when people do this.  I may have mentioned in another thread that I shop for two weeks' worth of groceries at a time.  For two weeks I have to feed:  myself (diabetic and needing some specialty items), DS (23-year-old persnickety chef in training), DH (who'll eat practically anything) and The Beagle (who would eat the same amount as a Great Dane if I let him).

A woman looked at my cart and snarked "I just hope you plan to use all that food.  Otherwise you're wasteful.".   ::)

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #12 on: February 16, 2015, 02:52:47 PM »
A woman looked at my cart and snarked "I just hope you plan to use all that food.  Otherwise you're wasteful.".   ::)

Wow.  Full carts and large families are quite normal where I live.  I have rarely seen anyone comment on something other than to say something like I forgot the eggs, when seeing eggs in their cart. Sometimes I will get someone asking if I like a specific product that is in my cart, or asking how it works for us.

This is a very interesting thread.

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #13 on: February 16, 2015, 03:00:59 PM »
So rude!  I hate when people do this.  I may have mentioned in another thread that I shop for two weeks' worth of groceries at a time.  For two weeks I have to feed:  myself (diabetic and needing some specialty items), DS (23-year-old persnickety chef in training), DH (who'll eat practically anything) and The Beagle (who would eat the same amount as a Great Dane if I let him).

A woman looked at my cart and snarked "I just hope you plan to use all that food.  Otherwise you're wasteful.".   ::)


Nope don't plan on using it, just throw it on the ground on the way home.

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #14 on: February 16, 2015, 03:16:05 PM »
So rude!  I hate when people do this.  I may have mentioned in another thread that I shop for two weeks' worth of groceries at a time.  For two weeks I have to feed:  myself (diabetic and needing some specialty items), DS (23-year-old persnickety chef in training), DH (who'll eat practically anything) and The Beagle (who would eat the same amount as a Great Dane if I let him).

A woman looked at my cart and snarked "I just hope you plan to use all that food.  Otherwise you're wasteful.".   ::)


Nope don't plan on using it, just throw it on the ground on the way home.

Well, even then, depending on where you live, it might not be totally wasted.  If I did that on my way home, for example, the squirrels and birds and stray cats would be on it in half a minute.   :)