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Danika

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #90 on: February 25, 2015, 06:13:10 PM »
You could reply something similar that's not rude like "what an interesting assumption" or "and I suppose that you making condescending comments to strangers on their lives that you know nothing about makes you feel better about yourself."

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #91 on: February 25, 2015, 06:59:49 PM »
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I don't think it's always rude to comment on something in someone's cart.

Sure.  Upon seeing something from the bakery, etc. I've said "That looks delicious!" and the stranger and I smile, or if they have something I was looking for or meant to get "Excuse me, where did you find those?"  Such comments and questions are fine.

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #92 on: February 25, 2015, 09:54:48 PM »
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I don't think it's always rude to comment on something in someone's cart.

Sure.  Upon seeing something from the bakery, etc. I've said "That looks delicious!" and the stranger and I smile, or if they have something I was looking for or meant to get "Excuse me, where did you find those?"  Such comments and questions are fine.

Someone once commented about the pop and coffee in my cart, all decaff by the way, and she gave me a lecture about caffeine and high blood pressure and said she could never have caffeine by doctor's orders. I didn't really examine her cart but saw the migraine Exedrin in her basket and asked her if she had read the ingredients. Oh, well, that was OK. I didn't intend it as retaliatory, merely as education. I wonder if she ever was being defensive and really looked at things later or if she was that clueless.

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #93 on: February 28, 2015, 03:01:01 AM »


A woman looked at my cart and snarked "I just hope you plan to use all that food.  Otherwise you're wasteful.".   ::)

There have been a few times in my life where all witty retorts have fled my mind and I have been reduced to blurting out "what a stupid thing to say."

This would have been one of those times.

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #94 on: February 28, 2015, 08:32:15 AM »


A woman looked at my cart and snarked "I just hope you plan to use all that food.  Otherwise you're wasteful.".   ::)

There have been a few times in my life where all witty retorts have fled my mind and I have been reduced to blurting out "what a stupid thing to say."

This would have been one of those times.

I would have involuntarily burst out laughing which is my go-to reaction when my brain goes blank.

Danika

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #95 on: February 28, 2015, 09:12:51 AM »
Similar to mine. If she had said it with a smile on her face and a friendly tone, I would have thought she was just trying to be funny, so I would have laughed, nodded and confirmed it sarcastically and jokingly and just said "yes" as I walked away.

But if she'd said it with a more serious expression and a judgmental tone, I would have looked her in the eye and said in a sarcastic tone "uh-huh..." And walked away. The "uh-huh" would not be to confirm or deny her story, but it would have been a bit of an out loud thought for myself just saying "this woman is trying to put me down and she's rudely making observations about my private purchase. My purchases are helping the store. I am not stealing or doing inappropriate things in life. She's out of line. I'm not engaging with crazy. And uh-huh, yes, boy is she one of the rude crazies. Get me out of here before she keeps poking into what is not her business." The "uh-huh" is the confirmation to the bully that "yes, I heard and understood you. I am not slinking away in shame. You are not going to insult me. And you are not worth my time to banter with. I owe you no defense."

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Re: Do you run an orphanage?
« Reply #96 on: March 14, 2015, 04:18:08 PM »
Just before Christmas I was in a store to buy cat food. The store had a special sale of one particular flavour of a quality cat food. A lady was piling up trays and trays of this particular flavour in a large shopping cart. I smiled at her and remarked that her cats must really like it. She then told me that she was a volunteer for a cat shelter and she was stocking up for the cats in the shelter so they would eat something extra nice on Christmas day.

At the check-out, I stood in line behind the lady. When the cashier had added everything up and named the total price, I said 'the cats' Christmas dinner is on me' and paid her bill. The poor lady was totally shocked and said 'this never happened to me before'.  :)

I hope I redeemed myself, but otherwise I will sit still grinning in etiquette hell

I agree with Adoptstrays. Thank you so much for doing this. I also want if this happened in Arizona? I'm only asking because I volunteer for a cat and dog rescue group. I'm the official "Crazy Cat Lady" for the group, btw. People will sometimes see me loading up my cart with cat food and will ask how many cats I have. I'm always willing to talk cats with anyone, anytime. I've had 2 different people pay my bill at the register. If you were one of them, please know that I will remember your kindness until the end of my days.