Today I was talking on the phone with a friend of mine who is going through a rough patch with her marriage and finances. Without going into too much detail, finances are very tight and will become even tighter if they split up.
I have a couple of tops at home that I was going to return to the store as they are a tiny bit tight for me, but I just never got round to it and can't be bothered now. I was going to offer them to this friend's daughter (12) a while ago, and again, never got round to it. I also have an overloaded freezer thanks to some gift baskets we received prior to Christmas. Some of these things we will never eat (nothing fancy - just certain frozen vegetables that aren't to our liking) and sooner of later I would have asked someone (anyone!) if they'd like the food.
My son is going over to their place to play tomorrow and I would like to offer the clothes to the daughter and frozen food to my friend. But I don't want it to come off as a charity drive. Is there a way to offer these things without it seeming like I'm trying to be a do gooder, as I'm really not and the last thing I would want to do is insult my friend. Alternatively, should I not offer the things at all at the moment? Had I not known of these problems I would have offered the tops to the daughter tomorrow anyway but I'd hate it to look as though I'm only offering now because of the circumstances.