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Pooky582

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Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« on: May 05, 2015, 12:52:03 PM »
Hello all, first time question for all of you, although I am sure I am over thinking this. And I apologize if it has been addressed before, but a quick look around didn't turn up a post about it.

I am making all of the arrangements/bouquets/corsages for my upcoming wedding. I spent four years working in a flower shop during high school and have a bit of a passion for it.  I plan on making a corsage for each of our mothers, as well as one for a reader and a singer.  The reader and singer are 16 and 18.  Our mothers are in their 50's. Is there a rule as to who should wear a pinned corsage or get a wrist corsage? Like age or style of dress? I found magnets for pinned ones, so putting a pin through a dress wouldn't be an issue. Should the young girls get wrists while the mothers get pinned?  Or is it just whatever I would like to make or what they prefer? Is one more formal than the other?

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #1 on: May 05, 2015, 12:54:57 PM »
There are no rules that I know of.  For my wedding, I asked the recipients (each of our moms) what they would prefer.  They both wanted pinned.

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« Reply #2 on: May 05, 2015, 12:56:28 PM »
As someone with little information on the topic, I would say to do whatever you like, and it would be kind to ask your guests if they had a preference. I don't know of any rule about pinned vs. wrist. I think the magnet thing sounds neat, I've always had trouble with the pinned ones flopping over and looking bad.
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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #3 on: May 05, 2015, 01:16:03 PM »
It all depends on the structure of what they are wearing. Some outfits just won't support a pinned corsage, or won't hang right.
Alternatively, some people might find a wrist corsage annoying.
I think asking is the nicest thing to do.

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #4 on: May 05, 2015, 02:12:51 PM »
Hi Pooky,
I was a florist back when I got married in 1973 and, like you, I did all the flowers for my wedding.

 I asked both my mom and mother in law which type of corsage they would prefer and they both chose pinned. However, there was a twist - they pinned their corsages to their evening bags. It was a late afternoon wedding with a dinner reception and dance.They looked great and there was no issue with either damaging their dresses or discomfort from a wrist corsage.

The Grandmothers all had standard pinned versions - I wish I had known the magnet idea back then!

Congratulations and good luck. I am sure whatever you chose to do for flowers will be beautiful.
« Last Edit: May 05, 2015, 02:16:20 PM by ArtsyCat »
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TootsNYC

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #5 on: May 05, 2015, 02:16:09 PM »
I did something different for my wedding (as the bride) that I think is logistically easier to -wear- than either the wrist corsage or the chest corsage:

an over-the-shoulder corsage.
Do a Google Images search.

This puts the weight of the flowers up on the part of the garment that is *already* strong enough to support extra weight (because it's supporting the weight of the entire garment anyway), and that already has thicker fabric.

I really like this one, because it's very low-profile. It might take a little bit of intelligence-gathering if you were worried how it would go with their dresses.

http://www.hojofloraldesign.co.uk/product.php?cat_id=1&sub_id=25&pro_id=123

This one looks mostly like a regular corsage; it's just pinned way up high. (I think there's some deliberate shaping that makes it suited for that position, but it's subtle.)

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/71/67/f6/7167f672ec756d6ad4e8b69093f62547.jpg


And yes, there is absolutely no rule about who gets flowers, and especially is there not even any sort of trend in terms of which kind! Give them the kind they personally will be happiest with.

Lots of florists make corsages that can be for either wrist or chest, which saves anybody having to gather information ahead of time. And if you can come up with something that's relatively versatile, it would give them the opportunity to move it around.

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #6 on: May 05, 2015, 02:19:30 PM »
^
Love the idea of a shoulder corsage!

gellchom

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #7 on: May 05, 2015, 02:38:47 PM »
Absolutely, ask them.  I looked back at the photos of the from both my children's weddings; there were 9 wrist and 2 pinned (and those 2 were our kids' two grandmothers, who both wore wrist at the other wedding, but I think either no one asked them this time or the florist messed up, because I know my mom prefers wrist).  So as you can see from this post and HannahGrace's, you really can't guess from others' experience.

I have always preferred wrist.  I definitely don't want to put a pin and fresh flowers on a good dress, and the magnets sound like they'd be a little heavy and pull the fabric (depending on what they are wearing).  If someone gave me a pin or magnet corsage when I was wearing a delicate fabric, I would probably put it on my purse or wrap (ArtsyCat, you posted while I was typing!).

It's also easier to slip a wrist corsage off if it starts to sort of get in the way or annoy you when you're dancing or eating and then slip it back on if you wish for a photo or toast.

So I would ask their preference, and if you just can't for some reason, I'd go with wrist, as the safer choice.  You can always cut off the elastic and pin it on if she wants that.

I've never seen a shoulder corsage.  They are pretty, but what if she has a strapless dress or one with a thin strap? 

TootsNYC

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #8 on: May 05, 2015, 03:14:46 PM »

I've never seen a shoulder corsage.  They are pretty, but what if she has a strapless dress or one with a thin strap?

Toupée tape!

 ;)

Kidding. Though, it could be done, if the corsage were lightweight and low-profile enough.

Pooky582

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #9 on: May 05, 2015, 03:38:31 PM »
Thank you all!

I know my future MIL's dress wouldn't allow for a shoulder corsage, but that is neat! I hadn't thought of it before!

ArtsyCat , I thought of that, but I'm having an outdoor ceremony and brunch reception, not very formal. I'm sure they will still have some sort of bag, though, so they could always do that if they prefer!

I will definitely ask them. I was hoping to keep it a surprise from the younger girls, because I don't think they would have any idea they get flowers, but I suppose they will be excited/honored either way. 

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #10 on: May 05, 2015, 04:04:43 PM »
I can't find any preference on the part of etiquette mavens toward one or the other. Though Miss Manners seems to prefer flowers in the hair, or someplace else where they aren't likely to be crushed or to interfere with the use of the hands.

Whichever you choose, corsages go on the left (breast/wrist) and, if pinned, face upward.


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TootsNYC

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #11 on: May 05, 2015, 04:12:23 PM »

I will definitely ask them. I was hoping to keep it a surprise from the younger girls, because I don't think they would have any idea they get flowers, but I suppose they will be excited/honored either way.

Check with moms, to see what they think about the girls' dresses, and suitability? That might work to keep it a surprise.

Depending on their experiences, they may not know what they would prefer.

gellchom

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #12 on: May 05, 2015, 04:14:54 PM »
Oops -- I think we mostly wore them on the right.  I really don't remember.

But even Miss Manners says that although they are customarily worn on the left, perhaps because they are less likely to interfere with dancing or handshakes, it's okay to wear them on the right if you prefer it for some reason.

I'd let the style of the dress and any accessories I was wearing determine it.  If I were wearing a bracelet or wristwatch on my left arm, I'd wear a wrist corsage on my right, for example.  And it might depend on which side my escort was to be on if I were walking down an aisle.

And you can always switch it during the evening, I suppose, especially a wrist corsage.

The little girls might love little nosegays to carry rather than wear.  That always looks charming.

Pooky582

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #13 on: May 06, 2015, 09:49:34 AM »
I did remember about them being worn on the left. And from what I've read, it seems it's okay to wear on the right as long as everyone wears it on the right.  Although I can't imagine anyone at my wedding, other than me, would have any clue as to what is traditional.

Toots, I feel silly that I hadn't thought to ask their mom! They are sisters, so it will be easy! Given their ages, 16 and 18, I couldn't decide if a wrist would feel too much like high school dances or not. But I also worried that a pinned one may feel too "old" for such an age.

Thank you all again!

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Re: Corsages: Wrist vs. Pinned
« Reply #14 on: May 06, 2015, 11:07:09 AM »
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Toots, I feel silly that I hadn't thought to ask their mom!

This is why I sometimes give really obvious advice (like to my DD, who was crabby at me for doing so)--because sometimes I forget completely obvious stuff.  Glad to be able to help.

I don't think there's the slightest problem w/ wearing corsages one on side or the other, even if everybody's different. I'm sort of surprised there's any etiquette ruling at all.

I don't personally think the following applies:
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as long as everyone wears it on the right. 

I would think "handedness" would matter most of all. A lefty and a righty may well have mirror-image body movements.

Though I suppose, if you wear your corsage on the left, maybe it's less awkward when you're dancing; maybe most people kiss on the right cheek, so the flowers won't get squished if they're on the left; etc.
   To me it would all be about logistics, and not at all about "everybody the same."