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MOM21SON

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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #30 on: July 03, 2015, 06:19:58 PM »
I have always donated my winnings back.  When I attend a benefit, it is because there is a need.  My friends and I all buy tickets and I can count on one hand the number of things we have kept.  Haircut, no thanks, I have my own hairdresser.  Wine, I don't drink wine.  50/50?  One time it was 75 bucks and once it was 200 range, we have always just donated it back. 

With that said, we always know who or what the benefit is for.  We don't "blindly" attend.  We have a great time eating and drinking and seeing friends.  We aren't there to win money or anything.  We are happy leaving with empty pockets.

Sorry, I left out my reason for posting.  There should not be pressure to give it back and to pressure someone is rude.  And there is nothing wrong with keeping it.
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Yvaine

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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #31 on: July 03, 2015, 07:41:49 PM »
I have always donated my winnings back.  When I attend a benefit, it is because there is a need.  My friends and I all buy tickets and I can count on one hand the number of things we have kept.  Haircut, no thanks, I have my own hairdresser.  Wine, I don't drink wine.  50/50?  One time it was 75 bucks and once it was 200 range, we have always just donated it back. 

With that said, we always know who or what the benefit is for.  We don't "blindly" attend.  We have a great time eating and drinking and seeing friends.  We aren't there to win money or anything.  We are happy leaving with empty pockets.

Sorry, I left out my reason for posting.  There should not be pressure to give it back and to pressure someone is rude.  And there is nothing wrong with keeping it.

There is a need--but that's what the other 50% is for. The cause gets half and the winner gets half. The winner gets a prize and the org gets probably more money than they'd have made without the incentive, win/win.

MOM21SON

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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #32 on: July 03, 2015, 08:11:33 PM »
I have always donated my winnings back.  When I attend a benefit, it is because there is a need.  My friends and I all buy tickets and I can count on one hand the number of things we have kept.  Haircut, no thanks, I have my own hairdresser.  Wine, I don't drink wine.  50/50?  One time it was 75 bucks and once it was 200 range, we have always just donated it back. 

With that said, we always know who or what the benefit is for.  We don't "blindly" attend.  We have a great time eating and drinking and seeing friends.  We aren't there to win money or anything.  We are happy leaving with empty pockets.

Sorry, I left out my reason for posting.  There should not be pressure to give it back and to pressure someone is rude.  And there is nothing wrong with keeping it.

There is a need--but that's what the other 50% is for. The cause gets half and the winner gets half. The winner gets a prize and the org gets probably more money than they'd have made without the incentive, win/win.
 

If that that you like to do, there is nothing wrong with that.

Outdoor Girl

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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #33 on: July 08, 2015, 11:30:30 AM »
I *might* give (some of) my share of 50/50 winnings back to the cause.  But if I do?  I'm doing it directly to the cause so I can get the tax benefit.

I won a 50/50 jackpot at a function back in the spring.  It was done to raise some money for a young mother in the group who had recently lost her husband.  I kept the round figure and donated the rest back to the cause.  I think it was $127.50 or something that I won.  I kept the $120.  There were no comments, other than a thank you for throwing the $7.50 back.  In this case, there was no tax receipt to be had.  At the time, I was expecting to be on strike very soon and that money paid for my yearly membership into the group.

I'd do the same at a wedding social - I'd keep the round figure and donate back the 'change'.
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darkprincess

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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #34 on: July 09, 2015, 01:12:00 PM »
I read this to my mother to get her opinion because she is more likely that me to be at events that do this. Her response was that it is always ok to ask.

I am not sure if I agree with her because of the social pressure of doing it in front of a crowd.

Biker Granny

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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #35 on: July 20, 2015, 11:39:53 AM »
In our social circle....if the 50/50 is for charity it is usually donated back to the cause.

Last weekend I won one that wasn't for charity and had no problem keeping the winnings.

Nobody is forced or shamed into doing whatever they want with the winnings.

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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #36 on: July 20, 2015, 11:49:11 AM »
I'm the president of a concert band (with charitable status) that runs frequent 50/50 draws. We have once had someone donate back the winnings and I was surprised and touched, but I would never expect the winner to do that and I would 110% not ask or permit anyone else to ask for that to happen. The deal is that we (the winner and the organization) split the pot, and IMO any pressure to donate changes that deal. We have charitable status but I don't see that making any difference here - the tickets were bought with the expectation of keeping any winnings.

If I were watching a 50/50 draw winner get pressured to donate, I would definitely never buy a ticket for that group's draws again and I would tell them why if asked.

siamesecat2965

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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #37 on: July 30, 2015, 02:34:51 PM »
I've been to a number of fundraisers that had both baskets, where you buy tickets, and put as many tickets in as many baskets as you want, and spend as much as you choose, and the winning ticket wins the item.   There are also 50/50 drawings, and a number of other drawings. The ones my group of friends and I usually attend are fundraisers for private schools, churches, or other organizations.  We've never given back anything we've won.

And as far as I can tell, no one has ever refused a basket or prize they won either, in my group, or overall, because they had "already won" one or more. In fact, the last one I went to had both an Android tablet, and Ipad as two of the grand prizes, and someone in my group, won both!  and kept both! Now some people may say she should have chosen one, and refused the other, being that they were essentially the same thing, but I disagree. She bought tickets for each, and just happened to get lucky and win both. She had the same chance everyone else did, and just got very very lucky.

 And I've seen some people win 6, 7 10 prizes. its the luck of the draw, and if they choose to spend several hundred dollars on chances to win vs. my $50 or so, fabulous. Then its likely they will win more! 

the one and only time I saw anyone give back their 50/50 winnings, was when it was for a local catholic HS, and i believe one of the parent's won, and donated it back. But in all that I've attended, its never been suggested that the winner give it back, and that's the only time I've seen it done.


Outdoor Girl

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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #38 on: July 31, 2015, 09:27:34 AM »
My parents were at a dinner with fundraising raffles.  There were several bottles of wine as door prizes and the big prize was a Texas mickey (rural Ontario parlance for a very large bottle) of whiskey.  Mom had won a bottle of wine or two and then won the big prize!  Then my Dad's ticket won.  He was too embarrassed to go up.  Not Mom!  The announcer joked - 'Not you, again!'.  She did give that bottle and one of hers to  the other couples at the table.

I'm of the opinion that if you won, you won.  If I'm winning everything, I might turn back one or some of the smaller prizes to be redrawn but I'm keeping the big one(s)!  But since I rarely win anything, I've never really had this problem.  :)
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TootsNYC

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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #39 on: August 26, 2015, 01:35:32 PM »
I think that's really rude (and very bad for future business!) for that person to suggest that.

Honestly, why enter a 50/50 if you are going to be pressured into giving away any winnings? At that rate, just call it a donation--and watch the dollar amounts dwindle.

If this becomes an expectation in your area, you can bet those raffles won't bring in the same amount of money.

Let Them Eat Cake

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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #40 on: November 04, 2015, 01:18:35 AM »
Wow, I've never heard of a raffle like that before! As generous as it would be for the person to donate their half, it should by no means be expected of them-- if it was, would they not call it a "100% raffle"? ::)-- and it was outrageously rude of the announcer to put them on the spot. Even given the fact that, if they're at the benefit to begin with, they most likely agree with the cause, you don't know whether they might plan to cover Christmas presents for their kids, an extra week of groceries, or whatever else, with their winnings... some people just aren't in the position to donate freely, even if they'd really like to.

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The couple who was booed at an event was wealthy and everyone knew they were wealthy, it had happened in a "public" way. The half of the 50/50 was about $1500. They didn't donate any of it back and several members of the crowd started yelling that they didn't need it and should give it all back. Then the rest of the crowd caught on and started booing. This couple had already made major contributions to the event but the crowd didn't know that. (I know the organizer. She told me the story.) The organizer was a little disappointed they didn't give anything back (I was surprised by her statement) but she was very embarrassed that the crowd booed then. Her emcee had not made a request for any of the cash.

Yikes! That's really awful! :o
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Re: 50/50 Draws
« Reply #41 on: November 04, 2015, 01:49:15 AM »
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he couple who was booed at an event was wealthy and everyone knew they were wealthy, it had happened in a "public" way. The half of the 50/50 was about $1500. They didn't donate any of it back and several members of the crowd started yelling that they didn't need it and should give it all back. Then the rest of the crowd caught on and started booing. This couple had already made major contributions to the event but the crowd didn't know that. (I know the organizer. She told me the story.) The organizer was a little disappointed they didn't give anything back (I was surprised by her statement) but she was very embarrassed that the crowd booed then. Her emcee had not made a request for any of the cash.

Good grief. If I attended an event where people behaved like that, I would never attend anything for that organization again. Whether people are wealthy or not, it is their money and no one has any right to demand that they donate it. Anyway, in my experience, wealthy people almost always are already donating very large amounts of money. I worked for a Catholic school system. There were a number of very wealthy families who had children or grandchildren in the schools. The schools would probably close if it weren't for these families. If they win a raffle and want to keep the money because of the fun of winning, no big deal. For the people who booed in the described incident, aside from the meanness of booing someone, it should have occurred to them that it does not pay to insult wealthy members who may feel insulted and limit their donations in the future.