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Author Topic: Controversial food choices, is it worth it?  (Read 27540 times)

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auntmeegs

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Re: Controversial food choices, is it worth it?
« Reply #120 on: February 09, 2016, 02:34:29 PM »
I don't see how this is even controversial.  It is certainly unusual and different than what you usually find at a wedding,  but its hardly controversial.  It's not going to kill anyone not to have meat and potatoes for one meal.

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Re: Controversial food choices, is it worth it?
« Reply #121 on: February 09, 2016, 02:48:11 PM »
It's not one meal. It was a series of meals over a four day wedding event.
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Re: Controversial food choices, is it worth it?
« Reply #122 on: May 14, 2016, 11:04:03 AM »


I still think if you KNOW a person coming to your wedding has a absolute food limitation (like an allergy) you should try to give them options.

A friend of mine and her daughters have onion allergy. Very serious ones (the oldest girl looks like someone slit her throat, because someone did. She had a reaction and due to the school brushing it off when she finally got medical care they had to cut the skin of her neck open to find where to put in a breathing tube. She was in a coma at the time so at least she doesn't remember it. The scar is pretty noticeable though.)

Their aunt asked Friend and the girls to be a bridesmaid and flower girls in her wedding. They agreed but Friend reminded the bride of the girls' allergies, was told it's fine. Things would be taken care of. The wedding was exhausting, the wedding party were there when it was still dark outside and the wedding wasn't until afternoon with a long ceremony going into the late afternoon. But the groom's mom brought bagels for their breakfast and assured Friend that they were onion free and she had asked about cross contamination at the shop. (They were indeed fine) That was all they had until evening, but the girls did fine and were waiting patiently for dinner.

At the reception Friend took a bite of her entree (one choice, a chicken dish) and immediately felt her mouth start itching. No sign of onion but her husband when he took a bite went white in the face and ran to keep the girls from trying it.

Friend hurried over to the bride and told her the food had onion and got a blank shrug, So What? Friend said she would have to leave and feed her girls and was told "Okay that's fine, they already did their job."

The girls were hurt that their aunt couldn't care less about whether they got to enjoy the reception and Bride is furious because the girls refused to come back the next day and pose for wedding party pictures.

Could've been avoided by either picking an entree without onion in it, or just buying three plates of something else. But some of the family is taking Bride's side because she shouldn't have to cater to everyone's preferences and Friend should have made the girls dress up again for the pictures. They had an obligation when they agreed to be flower girls.
At the bolded is when you cut this person out of your life and the life of your children. Anyone who agrees with this person never sees your kids again - flat out. Deliberately feeding someone a food they are deathly allergic to is no different than deliberately feeding someone food with arsenic in it. Both are deadly.
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