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sweedetobee:
Do you apologize and/or state why it is late?

I owe some thank you notes and they are overdue. I have them addressed and ready to be written.

My gut says to say "Dear Jane, Thank you so much for ABC - I've been using it and I love it. I am so sorry that this note of thanks is late, but I want you to know how much I love ABC." Or something to that effect... but I was thinking of adding in why the note is late (I was seriously ill for a couple of weeks but am now fine) but then I don't want to take away from the point of the note, which is to express thanks.

What do you think?

Ko-Ko:
I don't think you really need to state why is late. If you just thank them for the gift, and apologize for the lateness, I think you should be fine.

Ko-Ko

Slartibartfast:
I'm wrestling with this too!  Please advise!

bopper:
I think apologizing for it being late is good as it shows you acknowledge your deficiency, but there is no particular reason to say why unless you want to.

Bob Ducca:
Saying why might be overkill, and isn't necessary to the apoplogy. The point is you are grateful for the gift, and you acknowledge that the thank-you should have been sent sooner.  To divert into illness, etc. may be (incorrectly, but understandably) construed as an attempt to excuse the behavior and get sympathy.  I think an apology that includes an "excuse"* is usually unsuccessful and comes across as insincere.

*I understand that sometimes apologies need explanations, but I'm talking about "I'm sorry I slapped you in the face this morning, but the coffee in the lounge was cold and I accidentally put salt on my cereal..." which really isn't apologizing at all, IMHO. 

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