Oh, sorry I wasn't clear . The deal was "no college, no ticket". Since Cammie probably didn't even apply, let alone get accepted or receive a scholarship, no ticket. She blew a fit, hung up, and there's been no contact since. DD will block her.
I suspected she didn't even apply and was betting on just getting the ticket (then turning around and cashing it in).
I too was nervous about what she could do, even though she never had a key. Since we live in a complex with mostly older people (it used to be a retirement community) and teenagers look out of place except for DD and DS, I told the property manager the basic story and asked her to call the police should she see teenagers she doesn't know lingering around our house without DD and DS around.
Thank goodness you were able to cover those bases as you never know if she "borrowed" a house key when you weren't looking and made a copy.
Thanks in part to Cammie's influence, DD got into a fight a couple months ago with a mutual friend (who has since also ended her friendship with Cammie). DD reached out to Mutual Friend and apologized with no excuses for what happened. Friend accepted . They're going to meet up to discuss the incident and maybe patch up their friendship. I thought that was very big on DD's part.
Wow, Cammie sounds like more and more a "winner." I wonder if she were trying to isolate your DD. Thank goodness DD was able to reach out to Mutual Friend and, hopefully, try to fix things.
DD also learned she tends to be influenced or manipulated easily by stronger personalities, and she has a shaky sense of self-worth and of her own identity. She now knows she needs to address that shortcoming to prevent anything like this happening again.
If it's any consolation, *I* have a strong personality and *I* had, until somewhere between ages 27-30, had a strong sense of self-worth and identity. I then, at age 27, got involved with a guy who, over time and without me realizing it until the relationship
imploded, had managed to erode my strong sense of self-worth. By the time I was 30, I was a shaky mess and had to find the strength within myself to build myself back up again. I did and one of the many times later on when Guy tried to push me around again (yes, I stayed friends with him, stupidly), I finally was able to walk away (strong sense of self-worth reinstated), expecting I'd not have anything further to do with him. I did end up back in touch (him reaching out first for the first time in our relationship
at that point), but I noticed that he didn't keep trying to push me around like he'd had before (so, yeah, I think after him having to cave for a change, he realized he couldn't just push me around anymore). He tried to push me around a few more times after that, and I pushed back. At the end, I pushed back and haven't seen/spoken to him in 5-6 years. Anyway, my point is it can happen to even the strongest of us (and I've been pretty strong-willed my entire life). What you learn is to recognize when you're being pushed by a manipulative sort and to nip that in the bud (and they're always out there -- I come across them all the time due to DH being such a giving, compassionate sort).