Um, no. I'm actually not pregnant.

[smarterthanu213]

One thing I absolutely hate is when people assume I am pregnant. I know I am chubby, OK? But I would rather be called fat than pregnant. But many times people have alluded to pregnancy when, in fact, I am not and never have been pregnant.

Once, when I was 12, I was babysitting my one-year-old niece. A lady walked up to me, patted my tummy, and asked, "When's it due?"

I swear, unless someone mentions a due date, I will NEVER assume pregnancy. Really, it's humiliating. Especially when you're young. Like 12.

So, Ehellions, ever made the mistake of thinking someone's pregnant? Or ever been called pregnant?

Edited for clarification.

[hkkatie]

Ooh, it just makes me mad when people assume. One time a couple of years ago (I think my dd was about 1.5 years old), we were out to dinner with some of dh's relatives and one of them, whom I'd only just met, asked me if I was expecting. Um, no. The conversation kind of died after that for a bit...

Then about a year ago (dd was 2.5 yo) a lady at church asked me when I was due. This wasn't a lady that I saw a lot, but we knew each other, and she and her dh are good friends with my IL's. I said, "Sorry?" In case I misunderstood her. She asked again when I was due, and I said, "for what?" And she looked really embarassed and said, "Oh, you're not expecting? I thought someone told me..." blah blah blah and made up a few excuses as she walked away. It was really embarassing for both of us. Really hurts the old self esteem, too. Sure, at that time I WANTED to be pregnant, but I didn't want to look it if I wasn't, KWIM?

[RuneGuardian]

No, but there have been times I thought I looked like I was because my belly doesn't look proportionate to my breasts. I've had people think I was pregnant because I was wearing a hoodie that's two sizes too big (a.k.a. trying to hide the swollen gut), even though I'd had said hoodie for years and wore it every day a couple winters ago.

To the OP...you know it's a sad world we live in when people think it's something common or blessed for a twelve-year-old girl to be pregnant.

[smarterthanu213]

I guess in the other person's defense, I've always looked older than my age and could have been mistaken for a woman of nearly legit age to be having children. Partly due to the hideous, shapeless dress my sister conned me into wearing that day 

[MadMadge43]

I did it ONCE and have never ever assumed anyone was pregnant since. I still remember my 6th grade math teacher who just kept getting larger and larger, when she finally told us she would be taking maternity leave the next week, we all breathed a sigh of relief, for a group of 6th graders we were pretty polite in the fact that not once did anyone even mention it.

What kills me now is the "celebrity baby watches" seriously Nicole Kidman eats a muffin and everyone thinks she has the "baby bump". I'd be three months along if I was famous.

[sammycat]

 She asked again when I was due, and I said, "for what?"

I love that answer! 

[ClaireC79]

Only time I've been asked was by my daughters teacher at parents evening - because my daughter had told her that I was (I wasn't), when I asked my daughter later she told me I was going to have a girl and she could sleep on the floor in her bedroom.

I tend to be the other way, people don't realise I'm pregnant when I am - with my son I was asked if I was going to the work Christmas party (this was about 3-4 weeks ahead of the party), I said I'd go if I could but, obviously, I might not be able to make it.  Bloke organising it asked why.  Hmm, it's 3 days after my due date, I may be giving birth or have a new baby either of them, I'm not coming.  If I'm still pregnant I'll pop in for a bit.  His comment 'I thought you'd put on a bit of weight'

I've wondered a few times, in early stages, but not said anything - each time though it's been followed by an announcement a few weeks later.  But it's not really the belly that does it, it's the look around their face, the skin changes slightly, women who know tend to stand slightly differently as well

[veryfluffy]

Anyone else ever had to fight the urge to ask that question of a bloke with a beer belly?

[MrsP81]

I have IBS so my stomach is often bloated. I've been asked twice if I'm pregnant and it makes me want to cry. I'm not thin to start with and bloating doesn't help the situation at all. There are lots of pregnant people where I work and I always feel like people are just waiting for me to make the announcement.

[Yarnspinner]

This and the other thread about thinking small children belong to the teen babysitting them just tick me off.  At the library I always try very hard to assume that the very young woman with a child is her sister, not her Mother.  And I have been mistaken for pregnant so many times I would like to cry.  It isn't just because I'm "clinically obese" (though I see a lot of people who are just "overweight" and they look bigger than me)--it's also because I had a hysterectomy some eight years.  But I was getting it even before then...anyone remember when smocks were all the rage?  I was even skinny at the time and would still hear "oh, when are you due?"

But my favorite moment came at church.  (I must know a lot of rude priests.)  Father Clueless always made a point of going down the aisles to shake hands during the "sign of peace".  One Saturday evening, as I was suffering through a particularly miserable bit of menstrual bloat and was wearing an outfit whose skirt poofed out to begin with and was now poofing even more....here came Father Clueless, who shook my hand, patted my belly and said How Wonderful It Was That I Was Pregnant.  I said I wasn't.  He said I shouldn't be ashamed just because I was unmarried.  I said I wasn't ashamed, and I also wasn't pregnant.  He asked if I was sure (remember, we're in the middle of MASS and he has to get back to the altar to give out communion!!!!) and I said I was positive and since there was n o star in the east and no wisemen on the horizon, I very much doubted God has any special plans in mind.  Behind me my friend C and her husband snickered.

Father Clueless backed out of thre pew and continued on.  When I went up for communion, he took my hand again and said "I didn't mean to embarrass you."  I said "I don't think I'm the one who should be embarrassed, Father."

Behind me, my friend's husband whispered "Honey, suck in your gut or he'll think you're pregnant, too."

HOnestly!

[Verloona Ti]

Where in the name of all that is rude to people get the idea that it is acceptable to walk up to women-acquaintances or strangers-and pat them on the belly like you'd pat an animal on the head? It amazes me that more women don't respond with physical force to this blatant disrespect and invasion of personal boundaries. Pregnant or not, having people feel free to touch my body like that would make me go ballistic!

[Sterling]

Ok I don't smoke but my mother does.  She is also one of those mothers that doesn't want to do anything herself.  Since I was going to the store she asked me to pick up a pack of cigerettes for her.  I was wearing an empire wiasted floaty top that was really trendy at the time.  As I was checking out the woman took the cigerettes and said "You really shouldn;t be smoking theses in your condition.  they are really bad for the baby."

I gave her my meanest stare and my face turned red.  Then I told her I wasn't pregnate.  She just stared at my stomach.  I threw the shirt away as soon as I got home.

[HushHush]

I had a client ask when I was due.  I was more overweight at the time and just glared at her and said "I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat".  She stammered through a few apologies and hurriedly left the interview.

A few weeks ago, after I've lost about 40 pounds, another client asked when I was due.  I smiled sweetly and said I'm not pregnant.  He turned red and blurted that it was only the second time that had happened.  I said that it shouldn't have happened a first time!  I threw that shirt away when I got home.

Charlotte

[housewife2k]

I was overweight when Middleson was concieved, but lost some during the pregnancy for unknown reasons, and almost immediately after he was born, lost the baby weight and then some extra. I put on a considerable amount of eight with Babyson, and have yet to lose most of it. I have many friends and acquaintances that new me only from the time I was pregnant with Middleson on, so did not see me overweight before and after Oldestson. They always assumed I was one of the naturally slender people (HA!, I wish!) Middleson and Babyson are only 18months apart. Babyson is now nine months. Okay, now that we have the backstory- Hubby and I are at a get together with some friends, one of them walks into the room, takes one look at me, in an empire waited shirt and trousers, and exclaims, loudly "Oh my goodness! Again? Haven't you had enough babies yet!!!" I have never heard such a loud silence before in my life. The hostess pulled the woman aside, stated that A) I was most certainly NOT pregnant, B) even if I was, what business is it of hers how many I have or how close together they are in age, and C) maybe she should think a little harder before opening her mouth.

I went out the next day and found a lovely coffee basket for said Hostess.

[mrsbrandt]

I've been in both places before.  

Once at a baby shower, I confused the mom-to-be with MTB's sister.  MTB was about 7 mos preggers at the time.  The MTB and sister look so much alike and I had never met the sister before. I was mortified after MTB's sister introduced herself as not being MTB.  MTB's sister had a baby about a year earlier and was a bit heavier set than MTB, so I thought that MTB had just gotten a haircut or something.  I was so embarassed and I apologized profusely and MTB's sister was kind enough to never mention it.

About 3 months before I became pregnant, a woman in the convenience store downstairs asked me when I was due.  I was humiliated and felt guilty for the incident at the baby shower.

The day after I found out I was 3 wks pregnant, an elderly woman on the train asked me if I was pregnant.  I wasn't offended but it was so odd, because I was pregnant, but barely.