You could also do a name draw. That way, no one, whether they have kids or not, will have to buy for a ton of kids, or, childless adults can decline to participate. I was really overwhelmed by the gift-giving for my ex-DH's family. Not only are there a lot of adults, but they had a LOT of kids. I had mentioned that my family did a name exchange, so each person/couple bought for one person/couple, and bought for all the kids (if desired), which at the time amounted to 2. His family implemented this, and each unit (single or married) purchased for one single/couple and was assigned 2 children (of course as family grows, one couple might end up with 3 children). It worked out. I might suggest dividing up the children and rotating yearly. Whether they attend said event or not, they are responsible for those children. This eliminates the huge financial burden of buying for a lot of kids. I don't know how many they are, but I would easily duck out of that one, stating I just simply cannot afford to buy for that many kids. Also, put a cap or spending limit/amount - what is a reasonable amount per child to spend?