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lowspark

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Re: "Our guests will grill their dinners"
« Reply #30 on: June 16, 2017, 09:51:46 AM »
This reminds me of a restaurant chain called U R Cooks that opened a few locations in the Houston area several years back. It was exactly this concept. You pick out your steak (I think) and then you grill it. I never went because the idea of paying restaurant prices to do my own cooking, particularly grilling which is not something I would find fun, was totally unappealing. They closed up after about a year or two.

Sometimes these kind of gimmicks sound like a good idea but even if a lot of people want to try it, once the novelty wears off, people stop going. How about just offering good food and good service at reasonable prices?

And in the case of the wedding, I think that sometimes the HC is so caught up in making the event memorable, that they buy into some kind of nonsense like this. Again, how about just having a nice ceremony, and good food and good company at the reception? People are going to naturally mingle if they want to, and hang out with the people they already know if that's their preference. I don't think the HC have to do anything to force socializing.
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Re: "Our guests will grill their dinners"
« Reply #31 on: June 16, 2017, 10:08:49 AM »
Two additional words just occurred to me: "liability insurance."

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Re: "Our guests will grill their dinners"
« Reply #32 on: June 16, 2017, 10:15:02 AM »
At BBQ's, guests always go up to the cook(s) to chat, see how it's going, see what's going on. But I can't see that happening if every guest is cooking.

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Re: "Our guests will grill their dinners"
« Reply #33 on: June 16, 2017, 10:40:41 AM »
This reminds me of a restaurant chain called U R Cooks that opened a few locations in the Houston area several years back. It was exactly this concept. You pick out your steak (I think) and then you grill it. I never went because the idea of paying restaurant prices to do my own cooking, particularly grilling which is not something I would find fun, was totally unappealing. They closed up after about a year or two.
 

I went to one, once (in San Antonio).  People sat around the grill, similar to a teppanyaki place.  It was fine, but if I'm going to a restaurant, I don't want to cook my own food.

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Re: "Our guests will grill their dinners"
« Reply #34 on: June 16, 2017, 10:55:14 AM »
This reminds me of a restaurant chain called U R Cooks that opened a few locations in the Houston area several years back. It was exactly this concept. You pick out your steak (I think) and then you grill it. I never went because the idea of paying restaurant prices to do my own cooking, particularly grilling which is not something I would find fun, was totally unappealing. They closed up after about a year or two.
 

I went to one, once (in San Antonio).  People sat around the grill, similar to a teppanyaki place.  It was fine, but if I'm going to a restaurant, I don't want to cook my own food.

I wouldn't enjoy paying for that either. Hot Pots/Fondue are fun, but that's just dumping food into pots. Grilling is work! ;D

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« Reply #35 on: June 16, 2017, 12:58:21 PM »
I think this borders on rude, because a wedding reception is supposed to be a "thank you" to your guests for attending the wedding.  You aren't supposed to be putting your guests to work.

That is on top of all of the other reasons people have already listed.

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Re: "Our guests will grill their dinners"
« Reply #36 on: June 16, 2017, 01:15:20 PM »
I think the bride is looking for cooking together, but doesn't realise that it would be more like cooking simultaneously - and more or less separately.

I hate cooking and I have no idea how to grill properly. I'd have to skip, or ask someone else to do the grilling for me, and that would be awkward and stressful. Having a couple of people responsible for the grilling would be a lot better.

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Re: "Our guests will grill their dinners"
« Reply #37 on: June 16, 2017, 01:54:18 PM »
I did go to a "cooking together" party once that was a lot of fun, but a really different situation.

A group of housemates threw a pasta-making party. The guests all made the dough, rolled it through hand-crank machines, cut it, etc. There was wine and other snacks while we worked, lots of chatter and laughing. However:

-It was a bunch of 20-something singles.
-There were only a dozen people,  maybe less.
-The hostesses cooked all the pasta up in a batch that we ate together (there may have been a choice of sauces), with salad and other sides.

That was a great, very memorable party and I actually did get to know some folks and make new friends, so cooperative cooking can work as a party theme under the right circumstances.

But I don't think a grill and a wedding are the right circumstances.

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« Reply #38 on: June 16, 2017, 04:41:26 PM »
I agree with the others.  A fun idea for a party of a few friends who all like to grill; terrible idea for a wedding reception, and it won't have the effect they are envisioning.  It will play out as other posters have described.

This is the kind of thing that comes of people with no experience at entertaining large groups getting so excited about doing something New! and Unique! and So Fun! and forgetting about who they are actually entertaining and how it is likely to work out in reality.  That's why experienced (in your community) wedding coordinators are so worth the money, in my experience.  They've seen it all, and they know what works and what doesn't and why, and they can save you a world of money and aggravation.

There's nothing wrong with doing something out of the ordinary, and many nontraditional plans work out just fine.  But before running away with ideas that begin "I know!  Let's -- " remember that there's a reason that customary ways of doing things have become customary.  They work!

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Re: "Our guests will grill their dinners"
« Reply #39 on: June 16, 2017, 08:27:09 PM »
To me, this is a horrible idea on so many levels.  The chief ones for me are:

1.  Liability of having a lot of guests and a hot grill
2.  How does everyone get their food done at around the same time? 
3.  Who takes care of the elderly/those who are mobility impaired? 
4.  (my personal one)  How does one ensure food safety?

Outside of the logistical problems, it does seem like not enough hospitality for a wedding reception, even a backyard one. 

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Re: "Our guests will grill their dinners"
« Reply #40 on: June 17, 2017, 02:51:32 AM »
There was a restaurant that DH and I used to go to that was famous for getting you to grill your own steak. That was part of the experience going there, but it wasn't something you had to do. I don't think they do it much anymore as the place was undergoing renovations when we were last there and DH was disappointed he couldn't cook his steak.

And they had nice steaks you could get as well, way better than a supermarket butcher.

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« Reply #41 on: June 17, 2017, 03:18:14 AM »
I think it's a terrible idea!

I went to a regular backyard BBQ some years back. It was a potluck that involved the host providing all the sides, while guests were instructed to bring their own meat to grill (and hence had to grill it ourselves). It wasn't relaxing at all, nor was it an opportunity for socialising. People were nervously crowded around a too-small grill, and with too few utensils so someone was always looking for a pair of tons or a spatula to flip their thing that was about to burn, etc.

This is by far the most common method of group socialising with my friends.  It works really well.  Our groups are usual around 15 people, we tend to split into 2 groups, one chatting and one grilling (usually the menfolk grill) and its mostly one or two actually grilling for everyone, the rest stand around chatting and supervising.  So there's no stress looking for utensils etc.  And anyone can be responsible for their own if particular, or give particular instructions.

That said, the more people in attendance, the more complicated it will be.  And people tend to dress up more for weddings.  I'd at the VERY least want aprons supplied!  I think it would not work well in practice and space/timing would be an issue.

I don't think people not knowing how to grill would be a problem here, it wouldn't be hard to find someone happy to help you out.  But not everyone is comfortable with that.

I also really disliked that we were all eating different food. Some people brought sausages, others steak or fancy fish. I really feel that communal eating involves everyone eating the same thing (or eating from the same set of choices), absent deviations for dietary restrictions. (I realize for this wedding scenario this would not be the case.)

I am intrigued that you felt this way.  I never really pay attention to what someone else is eating.

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Re: "Our guests will grill their dinners"
« Reply #42 on: June 17, 2017, 04:29:54 AM »
Who will be grilling the bride's dinner?  What a picture this whole thing conjures...

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« Reply #43 on: June 19, 2017, 08:54:58 AM »
Who will be grilling the bride's dinner?  What a picture this whole thing conjures...

Ha-- maybe that's part of the 'fun': the guests get to cook for the wedding party!

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« Reply #44 on: June 20, 2017, 12:57:12 PM »
As someone who did bbq for her own wedding, this is a horrible idea.  We did it because my husband was nervous about being in the spotlight and felt better as the cook guests could come chat with while he worked.  One of his buddies voluntarily joined him at the grill as well. But we planned for practicality.  We had the reception meal before our ceremony (and dessert after) with plenty of time for a shower and change into wedding clothes.  Guests who wanted to change also had the time (ack, the gap everyone hates but we prepared them all).  And still with all our planning and simplistic menu, the meal took too long to cook, so we had everyone start on salad, had to finish the potatoes in an oven, it just didn't go to plan.  Everyone loved the meal (small wedding, great people) but I don't think I'd do it twice.

Now factor in guests who aren't into cooking or grilling, wearing your wedding clothes already, heat, shade, food spoiling in the sun while guests wait their turn - it sounds like a nightmare, even if some people were excited about it.  It definitely falls into the category of "we can't be bothered to do this ourselves or pay someone else to do it, so deal with it yourself.  Oh, and thanks for your gift!"  Ick.