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Chez Miriam

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Re: No Food in the Bedrooms - Rude?
« Reply #30 on: July 05, 2017, 04:37:29 PM »
Not rude at all, and I wouldn't make a big deal of it.  "Our house rule is that there is no food in the bedrooms - I know you wouldn't like to wake up with ants crawling all over your floor."  In the summer here I live ants are a serious problem, and it's not uncommon to ask your friends what their doing about their ants, without even bothering to ask if they have ants.

I agree with GardenGal, but would shorten it a bit - that might make her think a bit more carefully?

I'm in my kitchen, and have just put down ant powder and spritzed the top corner of one window with Raid, but half of them are flying ants, so the 'crawling all over' thing is not a fantasy.  Ugh: the odd one [most are now dead] keeps landing on me, and I'm squishing them, but they smell.  I'd hate to have that happen whilst I was asleep.
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« Reply #31 on: July 05, 2017, 07:54:34 PM »
I think that it's good housekeeping to have that rule!

That said - I know that enforcing it is a constant struggle.   Good luck.

DD was cleaning up after a house guest in her own home - and found candy wrappers under the mattress of the bed the guest had been using, crumbs in the sheets, and other stuff under the bed.  The house guest is on the "no sleeping at our house" list at this point - with her spouse fully aware of the reason why the former house guest is no longer welcome in their home

Edited in color to clarify a couple of things.

I can remember thinking that three hours to clean a small closet to get *everything* out of the carpet, off the shelves, and the ant trails off of the walls, floor, and the area between that pantry to the garage (the doors when opened banged into each other - hinges were in the same corner - the ants didn't have far to go, even as ants would measure distance).  Then putting everything back in as I wiped containers off & put all food in flimsy wrappings into more solid containers - that were bug & other vermin proof (I hoped). 

I still learned that checking that all four sides had sealed when someone else was the last one to handle the container wasn't a bad idea.  Just in case - as Phoenix, Arizona never gets cold enough to kill bugs or even slow them down.
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Re: No Food in the Bedrooms - Rude?
« Reply #32 on: July 05, 2017, 08:23:51 PM »
OP have you restated your rules?

Of so, what were the results?
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Re: No Food in the Bedrooms - Rude?
« Reply #33 on: July 05, 2017, 11:51:40 PM »
Ants are attracted by water too and I don't think it is reasonable to not let people have water in their rooms. YMMV

I'd never heard of that before! The no water rule makes more sense then.
 
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« Reply #34 on: July 06, 2017, 05:12:02 AM »
Are these "guests" of your hospitality or do they pay to stay in your home?    I am confused on this as to some of the things you have posted.
 

This the daughter of some dear friends, so no payment is being made. (Though her parents were kind enough to send us over some of the goodies we miss and can't find here.)

We do sometimes have students to stay, acting as a host family, and the academy that runs their courses pays us for this. I'm guessing this is where the confusion will have arisen, and my apologies for that.

The doors just happen to have keys in them, never even registered to remove them as usually it's just me and DH.

SiotehCat, I get your point but it's *very* expensive to leave aircon running constantly; the increase in our electric bills during the summer months will testify to that. Hotels can recoup the cost through their charges but in a private home I don't think it's unreasonable to ask guests to use it only when they are there to feel its benefits; the units cool the room in moments. In most cases they are free to choose to stay elsewhere, as you would, if this is unacceptable to them.

All this has been somewhat pushed aside as our houseguest arrived home at 7.30am, in tears and barefoot, after an incident with my former friend Rachel who featured in another thread of mine. http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=142700.0

Friend's daughter - who I will now call Paula - was out with Rachel last night and staying at her place.
Early this morning, drunk Rachel took exception to something incredibly minor and went off on one, as she does....threw insults and then threw Paula out in just her PJs, she walked home barefoot and incredibly upset having left behind her purse & belongings. (Luckily it was already light and a short walk through the village of about 15 minutes.)

Managed to calm Paula down and get her to go and get some rest; DH and I will retrieve her belongings later.  :'( >:(
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Re: No Food in the Bedrooms - Rude?
« Reply #35 on: July 06, 2017, 07:32:42 AM »
Oh no! Poor Paula.
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« Reply #36 on: July 06, 2017, 09:38:01 AM »
Crikey!

I thought you were well off edging carefully away from Rachel, but now I think running in the opposite direction is sensible?

Hope Paula is soon OK, and you have no problems collecting her things from Rachel...
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« Reply #37 on: July 06, 2017, 03:14:46 PM »
Nothing helpful to say other than it really seems that Rachel is not up to "entertaining" people in her home at this time. 

She is entertaining those of us who are only hearing about her antics - not those who have to be in her presence.
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« Reply #38 on: July 10, 2017, 06:00:40 PM »
We have that rule.  Food spilled in bedrooms can damage furniture and carpet as well as lure ants and other bugs. That is something that we don't want to happen, thus the rule.  It applies to guests and to us.

I also have no problem politely reminding guests of the rule.

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« Reply #39 on: July 13, 2017, 12:26:48 PM »
Another thing is to let them have consequences for their behavior:  "Paula, when you leave the AC on all day that costs us an additional $10 per day. You can either keep it off or pay us up front."  "No food in the room...if you get ants in your room they may crawl in your suitcase and lay eggs (or soemthing gross /we will send you the bill for the exterminator."

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« Reply #40 on: July 29, 2017, 08:51:21 PM »

I haven't had coffee yet, so I can't think of a good "no wet things on the cushions" fix. But I'm sure someone can.


I wouldn't seriously do this, but I would briefly entertain the idea of taking the wet swimsuit/towel/what have you and leaving it on the offending guest's bed, right on the bedsheets, so she'd have to deal with a wet spot.  But since she takes the key to the locked door with her when she leaves the house, in addition to being rude, my idea wouldn't work. 

Maybe put up a portable clothesline or drying rack in the outdoor area and ask her to use it?  No telling if this would work, but might be worth a try.
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« Reply #41 on: July 30, 2017, 12:27:23 AM »

I haven't had coffee yet, so I can't think of a good "no wet things on the cushions" fix. But I'm sure someone can.


I wouldn't seriously do this, but I would briefly entertain the idea of taking the wet swimsuit/towel/what have you and leaving it on the offending guest's bed, right on the bedsheets, so she'd have to deal with a wet spot.  But since she takes the key to the locked door with her when she leaves the house, in addition to being rude, my idea wouldn't work. 

Maybe put up a portable clothesline or drying rack in the outdoor area and ask her to use it?  No telling if this would work, but might be worth a try.

Well, the idea is to help, not punish. And to not have to pick up after people. So I think the drying rack is probably better.

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Re: No Food in the Bedrooms - Rude?
« Reply #42 on: July 31, 2017, 05:46:01 AM »

I wouldn't seriously do this, but I would briefly entertain the idea of taking the wet swimsuit/towel/what have you and leaving it on the offending guest's bed, right on the bedsheets, so she'd have to deal with a wet spot.  But since she takes the key to the locked door with her when she leaves the house, in addition to being rude, my idea wouldn't work. 

Maybe put up a portable clothesline or drying rack in the outdoor area and ask her to use it?  No telling if this would work, but might be worth a try.

We have several outdoor clotheslines and a free-standing drying rack. There's also a free-standing electric towel rail in each bedroom.
The problem was that Paula would put her wet things down intending to hang them out/up and then keep forgetting.
Much as I love her mum (who is a very good friend), she tends to go round picking up after everyone so Paula doesn't really have much idea of tidying up after herself.  ::)

Anyway, events kind of took over on this visit. There's a chance Paula will be back with us for a few days later in the year so this time I'll know what we're in for and will be prepared!  ;D
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« Reply #43 on: July 31, 2017, 10:01:40 AM »
I thought of something - if it was me trying to remind myself or my kids about "drying rack not chair," I'd place the portable rack in such a way that you'd have to move it to get to the chair.

But that's probably too heavy-handed for a guest.

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Re: No Food in the Bedrooms - Rude?
« Reply #44 on: July 31, 2017, 11:08:59 AM »


My rule about food and drink, including water, is "only in the kitchen or on the dining table and only for the time you spend eating."

Including water? I must have water constantly. I can't imagine going to the kitchen every 20 minutes for a sip, particularly during the waking moments at night. How do you, even yourself, manage that?

I keep a bottle of water by my bed with the lid on tight because I have had ant problems previously as well.  But really you sip water every 20 minutes, how do you ever get any real sleep? 

I get up a few times during the night but I don't get a drink everytime.  It's usually my bladder needing attention.