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crella

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Re: no kids - except for.....
« Reply #75 on: September 03, 2017, 07:33:46 PM »
Heres' the point that I think you've all missed.   And why it will cause hurt feelings.

The bride didn't say - Oh, we are only inviting nieces and nephews, or we are only inviting cousins, or anything like that.   She made it clear to the world that she wants an adult-only reception.   How on earth can you have an adult-only reception with children there?

Because they are the wedding party, not guests.

Harriet Jones

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Re: no kids - except for.....
« Reply #76 on: September 03, 2017, 07:39:50 PM »
Heres' the point that I think you've all missed.   And why it will cause hurt feelings.

The bride didn't say - Oh, we are only inviting nieces and nephews, or we are only inviting cousins, or anything like that.   She made it clear to the world that she wants an adult-only reception.   How on earth can you have an adult-only reception with children there?

Because they are the wedding party, not guests.

Plus, as PP have mentioned, they may not even be at the reception. A couple of kids in the wedding party is *not* the same as having many many kids there.

gramma dishes

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« Reply #77 on: September 03, 2017, 07:40:44 PM »
Heres' the point that I think you've all missed.   And why it will cause hurt feelings.

The bride didn't say - Oh, we are only inviting nieces and nephews, or we are only inviting cousins, or anything like that.   She made it clear to the world that she wants an adult-only reception.   How on earth can you have an adult-only reception with children there?

Because they are the wedding party, not guests.

And they may be in the wedding but never make an appearance at the reception.

kudeebee

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Re: no kids - except for.....
« Reply #78 on: September 04, 2017, 07:11:13 PM »
Heres' the point that I think you've all missed.   And why it will cause hurt feelings.

The bride didn't say - Oh, we are only inviting nieces and nephews, or we are only inviting cousins, or anything like that.   She made it clear to the world that she wants an adult-only reception.   How on earth can you have an adult-only reception with children there?

1. They may not be at the reception.
2.  They may be at the reception for the meal and then whisked away with a babysitter.
3.  They are part of the wedding party.

FauxFoodist

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« Reply #79 on: September 06, 2017, 11:25:34 PM »
This topic reminds me of the first post on this link, http://www.tickld.com/x/fbk/horrified-wedding-guests-share-the-worst-behavior-theyve-ever-seen-at-a-wedding.

I love the HC's spine and hope that it made the SS-guest think twice about ever pulling this again after traveling all that way just to have to spend the time in their hotel room with her DD while her DH attended the wedding (DH was the friend of the bride).

The bottom line here is the OP's friend needs to remember that the wedding is not about her and there could be consequences for her if she tries to force the issue like in the link.