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Soulsister

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The uninvited guest
« on: January 25, 2014, 09:41:49 AM »
Etiquette faux-pas... I've come across my fair share of them with my own wedding looming close. My fiance is in the entertainment industry, which is some ways is a blessing - for example, we had a plethora of entertainers on tap to choose from who offered to perform at our wedding free of charge, as a  gift. But it can also be a curse - an example of which was a fan who could not comprehend why it wouldn't be appropriate for us to invite someone who is a fan and who regularly shows up to watch fiance's performances but is otherwise unknown to us, to witness such a personal, private moment in our lives. I thought that one took the biscuit enough but no, the best was yet to come.

Last week, I got an email notifying me that I had a message on a Social Networking site that I forgot I had - that's how infrequently I go on there. Curious to see who it could be from, I went onto said site to read it. It said. "(My name), it has come to my attention that some people have got an invitation to you and (fiance's name) wedding but we don't have one yet. I have tried to phone (fiance's name) to chase it up but he has changed his number so I looked you up on here. I expect to have ours soon now that I have alerted you to your mistake and have blanked out that day in my diary to make sure I keep it free" Trouble was that I had no idea who the person who sent it was, I'd never heard of her. I began to panic, worrying that there was some distant yet important relative of fiance that we had inadvertently left off the guest list.  Turns out that it is an old booking agent whose services fiance hasn't used in years. And that's not all. Not only did he stop taking bookings from her years ago but he stopped speaking to her years ago after quite a big falling out over contracts. We got to the bottom of it though -  she'd overheard someone talking about our upcoming wedding during an event and muscled in on the conversation. Unbelievable!

Promise

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Re: The uninvited guest
« Reply #1 on: January 25, 2014, 10:17:59 AM »
Wowzer! That's awful. I guess there are two routes you could go. First, you could just ignore the person. NO communication. The end game might be that the person just shows up to the wedding or reception. If so, have someone on the lookout to escort them out if they show up. Or you could respond, "Our wedding is a small, personal affair. We thank you for your interest in attending, but cannot accommodate your request."

Soulsister

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Re: The uninvited guest
« Reply #2 on: January 26, 2014, 05:31:30 AM »
I was a little more direct - I deleted my account lol. I'm never on there anyway x

Winterlight

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Re: The uninvited guest
« Reply #3 on: January 27, 2014, 08:59:45 AM »
Wow. That is an impressive level of gall she's got there.
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Re: The uninvited guest
« Reply #4 on: January 27, 2014, 10:29:37 AM »
Sounds like you need to hire a bouncer for your wedding!  And let all invited guests know to bring their invitations or ID to be checked at the door.
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