I support you as well, Auntie Venom.
It seems we get this complaint every time there is a "protected" group under discussion.
For example, I am fat. Not big-boned, not chubby, not pleasantly plump - fat (I will accept Reubenesque).
There have been threads on these boards regarding behavior by fat individuals that was, is and forever shall be rude. Example: When sitting on a plane, automatically folding up the armrest so they can bleed into the sear next to them (because they need more room). When it's put back down, they get nasty and say that they need the extra room because they're fat. Sorry - not my problem. Another issue with some fat people is that they are not aware of or do not take into consideration how much extra room we take up. This is not rude in itself, but can lead to rude and inconsiderate behavior. It's just something that needs to be taken into consideration.
Both of those are fine.
An example of an unacceptable mention of fatness was the thread in which a man was at the counter at a McD's arguing about a food product. The rudeness was to be found in his actions and words. The OP decided that it was important that everyone knew he was fat. That's not important for that discussion.
I don't need to be protected from meanness. I'm 37 years old and more than capable of speaking up for myself. Fat people can be rude in fat ways (hope that makes sense). These ways, though particular to fat people, are legitimate topics of discussion. My fatness in general is not.
Just like the fact that the old people discussed in this thread are not being called rude simply because they are old, but because they are trying to use the fact that they are old as an excuse.
Oh, and - scarlet.