Hey everyone, I was gone for... a long while (as in Rosebud is no longer a bud and we've had a second bud in the family), but I've been lurking lately and came back because I have to share what my mother did when my grandfather passed recently.
Grandfather's passing was not unexpected, he had been sick and unresponsive for quite some time, and we had been told we had days, a week if were were lucky, and four days later he passed. My grandmother told my dad, who told my mother. Now, my mother and my grandfather didn't get along for a while, so she was pretty emotionless when she told me. Whatever, I can't force emotions, and at the time I was just too drained to say anything.
Since I had a ton of emotions myself at the time, and when I have too many I do something unrelated to give myself some time to step back, I went to check Facebook. Lo and behold, there was an update from my mother saying "*dad's name*'s father passed today, keep us in your thoughts and prayers" or something along those lines.
Problem is that she was friends with a lot of my cousins. And because their parents were thinking of the best ways to break the news or taking the time to visit my grandma and postponing the news they hadn't been told. So they logged onto Facebook to see that. Luckily once I caught it I told her to take it down, and she did, but the damage had been done.