I guess I am being petty but...

[Maggie]

My son and I both work at the same job.  Payroll is always ready at 7 am on Thursday.  My son didn't get home until after 7 this morning (he's 21 that is pretty much not my business).  It's now after 11:30 because I was letting him sleep.  I went to wake him up and ask if he wanted to go pick up the checks and he said no I already have mine.  I tried to wake him up 4 times (which he doesn't remember) to ask about picking them up.  Am I wrong to be upset?  Couldn't he have just mentioned when he got home that he already had his?  To me this would be common courtesy.  Maybe I am wrong, if so please tell me.

[FoxPaws]

You are not wrong. If it is customary for the two of you to go together, it was inconsiderate of him to change plans without letting you know.

I would not make a huge issue of this, but next Thursday, if he's not awake and ready to leave at 7:00am (or whenever you're ready to go), I'd go without him.

He's 21 years old 24 hours a day.

[Maggie]

You are not wrong. If it is customary for the two of you to go together, it was inconsiderate of him to change plans without letting you know.

I would not make a huge issue of this, but next Thursday, if he's not awake and ready to leave at 7:00am (or whenever you're ready to go), I'd go without him.

He's 21 years old 24 hours a day.

Thank you I know I tend to baby him at times. 

[Clara Bow]

I'd be annoyed that he didn't pick up mine while he was there, if he could have that is.
I have to agree with the poster above. He's perfectly capable of getting his own check. If he was up and around when I was ready to go mine, I'd offer him a ride. If not, I'd hit it on my own.

[bopper]

Direct deposit is your friend.

[Maggie]

He doesn't have a car so we usually go together and then go to breakfast.  It's kind of just something we do.  It's not usually me depending on him, it's him depending on me.  We have to both go because they wouldn't give it to him.  We have to sign for them and I have to sign for myself and he has to sign for his. 

[snowball's chance]

I also lived at home, without a car, when I was your son's age, however, I never expected my parents to deviate from the a routine because I needed a ride somewhere WHEN I felt like waking up.  I think it's commendable that you aren't angry at your son for staying out all night.  (Something lots of people do at that age), but it was his choice, and his fault he was too tired.  My suggestion would be tell him, "I am leaving in 15 minutes, with or without you."