Okay, I need your etiquette expertise regarding a letter I just composed to email to my son's teachers en masse.
A little background:
My son is extremely gifted. But he is also lazy. Basically he figured out in elementary school that he could get straight A's and not have to do any work. in 5th grade they finally moved him into our gifted program and there he realized he could get B's and C's without doing any work. Not as good as A's, but I guess he was happy with it since they were easy.
Enter Middle School. Not just Middle School, but Gifted Middle School. Andthe kid who hasn't done any work at school for 3 or 4 years. In this program he can't do that. The classes are on his level, which means he actually has to do the work to learn anything, and if he doesn't do the work, he can't pass the tests and therefore falls behind. And fails. Then he feels awfule for failing and is afraidt o try b/c he feels like he should be able to ace it all without trying like he always has *sigh*
In November I had a meeting with all of his teachers. He was failing pretty much all of his classes b/c of this. I hadn't seen his interim b/c he forged my signature and turned it back in so I was shocked to find out he was failing pretty much everything. By this time he was already too far behind in Math to catch up so they moved him back a level (he started out in 8th grade math, got moved back to 7th grade math). At that time we came up with a bunch of strategies (that are named in my letter so I won't mention them here.)
Basically, I am upset about a few things. The first thing is that my son essentially did NO work for almost 3 months before they contacted me. they let him get so far behind that he was unable to catch up in at least one class before letting me know. IMO, if he wasn't turning in his work, they should have let me know at the latest 3 weeks into the school year so that I could nip it in the bud and get him on track while there was still time. but I don't mention that in my letter b/c it is water under the bridge.
But since our meeting, I have not seen ANY effort from the teachers to keep up thier end of our plans. This really bothers me. Please don't develop a plan with me and then not hold up your end of the bargain! I feel like I have been working my tail off to do what I need to do and that I'm doing it all alone. And it's not doing any good b/c there is only SO much that I can doAT HOME to improve his performance AT SCHOOL. I understand that you have 130 students, but you knew that when you told me you would do these things and you still committed to them.
So... in frustration, I sat down this morning and penned this to email to his teachers (I had to hunt down their email addresses). Please take a look at it and give me your opinions. thank you thank you thank you!!
I am concerned that there has not been adequate communication regarding DS1ís progress since our meeting in November. In that meeting we came up with several strategies in order to help DS1 succeed in this program. We determined that he should have his planner signed each day by his teachers so that I can make sure he is completing all of his homework. Mrs. E stated that any class work that was not completed would be given to DS1 to complete during ASE (equivalent to study hall). Finally, we determined that each of you would email me prior to interims being released to update me on DS1ís progress so that we could alter the plan if necessary.
I have not heard from any of you since that meeting, so imagine my surprise when DS1ís interim had 4 failing grades. In addition to that, there was at least one comment on the interim about DS1 not completing and turning in his class work. Iím not sure why that is still an issue since he is supposed to be spending his time in ASE completing any work he did not finish in class. If this is not possible, then please make sure he writes the incomplete class work in his assignment planner so that I can make sure it gets done as homework.
I am working to keep up my end of the bargain, but without regular communication from DS1ís teachers I am out of the loop. I know that we all want to see DS1 succeed in this program, so Iím not sure why I have not been kept up to date with his progress. When I did not receive the email prior to interims I assumed he must have gotten himself back on track. I canít imagine why, after the meeting we had, I would not have been notified that he was still failing 4 classes and what needs to be done to raise his grades.
Please advise if DS1 has managed to raise his grades since interim time. I would like to know if he has been turning in both homework and class work since interims and if there is some other problem that is keeping his grades down. I would like to know if it is a realistic goal for him to raise his grades between now and the end of the 9 weeks, and what he needs to do in order to accomplish this.
I am sending a copy of this email to Senorita Santiago via her school notes page because I do not have her email address. I look forward to your replies. Thank you for your dedication to Jís success.