Flat-Out "No" Causing Estrangement

[caranfin]

"But she's your mooooooother!"

"I know. That's why it's so sad. Who would ever think that your own mother would treat you so badly that you'd have to cut her off out of pure self defense?"

[livluvlaf]

I firmly believe you have the right to choose to control or even eliminate negativity from your life. Life can be hard enough, without this extra force draining you of positive energy. If a parent or family member qualify ... then limit exposure to them. If they refuse to understand & alter how their toxic behaviour poisons your life, eliminate them. A relationship needs to be mutually beneficial, otherwise what's in it for you? History between you isnt enough.

Good Luck.

[Mr. Fed]

My most pointed use of it, softened from 'no' but no less brutal:

"Grandma, I love you and appreciate your input.  I've considered it.  But this is my decision, I've made it, and that's the end of the discussion, please."

[DCZinger]

Yes, Venus...Toxic Parents by Susan Forward is part of my "healing" library.   As is.. "Emotional Blackmail". 

DCZinger

[Venus193]

Excellent.

I also recommend books about nacissistic parents, if you need them.  There are several good ones out there