"No" on match.com

[newbiePA]

1) ItZWhoUKnow your son is SO CUTE!  I esp. like his dream job, very creative!

2) My little brother is a police officer, and on Match.com  He does not mention his job AT all on the website.  I think it says something about working for local government or something equally dull.  His thought was that he doesn't want to attract people who are only attracted to his job.  So maybe it's just me, but Mr. Ninja Pilot seems kind of desperate and sad

but you already knew that!   

newbiePA

[caranfin]

Well, of course he's a ninja. That's why he had to come up with the cover story.

[Phoebe]

My FH looks at airplane pictures like other guys look at porn so I've seen some pretty basic and impressive cockpits.

I've just had my first experience with diet coke all over my monitor! 

[snowflake]

Good for you! I hate it that guys often don't understand that. "Hey baby, want to go out?" "No." "Why not?" 

Don't say "Why not" unless you really, really want to hear!   

[CrayonOutlines]

Now I'm confused about the race comment.  He looks Caucasian.  You look Caucasian in your thumbnail.  I realize that I'm assuming a lot here, but if the pictures are really of you two, you are the same general skin color and both appear to be members of the human race.  Why would he think you wouldn't see him (or have a relationship) on the basis of race?

I'm Caucasian, he's Hispanic.

When I worked in public health, we couldn't list people's race as Hispanic.  We had to choose a race of White or Black and then check Yes or No for Hispanic ethnicity.  And, not that it matters, my first boyfriend was of Mexican descent (he may have been the 1st generation born in the U.S., but it's been so long that I can't remember), so that racial/ethnic background hasn't served as a stumbling block for me in the past.  And, heck, I live in Texas!  Not dating "Hispanics" would really limit my choices!   

[Midnight Kitty]

Now I'm confused about the race comment.  He looks Caucasian.  You look Caucasian in your thumbnail.  I realize that I'm assuming a lot here, but if the pictures are really of you two, you are the same general skin color and both appear to be members of the human race.  Why would he think you wouldn't see him (or have a relationship) on the basis of race?

I'm Caucasian, he's Hispanic.

When I worked in public health, we couldn't list people's race as Hispanic.  We had to choose a race of White or Black and then check Yes or No for Hispanic ethnicity.  And, not that it matters, my first boyfriend was of Mexican descent (he may have been the 1st generation born in the U.S., but it's been so long that I can't remember), so that racial/ethnic background hasn't served as a stumbling block for me in the past.  And, heck, I live in Texas!  Not dating "Hispanics" would really limit my choices!   

I grew up in Northern California. I'm not prejudiced or picky: I dated Hispanic boys, black boys, Indian (not Native American) boys, Hawaiian boys, even Caucasian boys.   I figured that's what dating was about, getting to know lots of different boys with different backgrounds.  I noticed that some Hispanics and Asians have paler skin than mine, which is a sallow shade of white, so I don't understand the "people of color" distinction.  Most people's skin is colored.  I can't say "everyone" because some people lack pigment & I don't want to discriminate against them either.

[Twik]

I'm pretty sure that I could get a picture of myself, in civilian clothes, sitting in a flight simulator. To use that to "prove" I was a pilot would be ridiculous.

Showing myself in, say, an Air Canada pilot's uniform wouldn't be impossible, but it would be a lot more difficult. However, if I were a pilot, I bet I'd have scads of photos like that.

Verdict: Reports of his airline status have been greatly exaggerated.

[hjaye]

Here is one thing that would worry me. Doesn't Match.com match you with the "perfect" person based on some sort of test that you take? (Never used the service just have heard the commericals.)

I would think twice about a service that would think someone like that would be a match for me!

This may have already been addressed since I have not finished reading all of the other reponses.


Actually Match did not necessarily match them up.  Match will send you information on other members who fit into your likes and dislikes.  They will show you where you match up and where you differ. 

This does not preclude other members from just browsing profiles and sending emails to people they are interested in.  It sounds like this is what this guy did.

[purity]

Here's a pic he has in his profile...

Whadday'all think?

I think he should get that big black patch on his face taken care of, before it spreads 

[CrayonOutlines]

I think he should get that big black patch on his face taken care of, before it spreads 

HA!   

[Jocelyn]

  Plus, I found it offensive that he automatically assumed that it was because his race is different than mine -- why would he want to date me or to even continue to talk to me if he thought I was racist?!?!

Sounds like he's the racist, and he gets some sorts of jollies out of guilting women of other races into dating him. He wins bonus points by 'proving' that a woman is a racist if she refuses to date him after he accuses her of being a racist.

[Jocelyn]

I'm pretty sure that I could get a picture of myself, in civilian clothes, sitting in a flight simulator. To use that to "prove" I was a pilot would be ridiculous.
 

I have a picture of my father, in civilian clothes, sitting in a Major Airline cockpit, wearing a pilot's hat.

But that doesn't mean he knows anything more about how to fly an airplane than where to sit down and how to put on the hat! <G>

The above picture was taken shortly before 9/11/01, and my father and his brother had encountered the pilots for our flight back from Europe while we were trooping through the airport. (the rest of the family had walked faster, and missed the opportunity!) The pilots invited them to the cockpit prior to takeoff, and there was enough time for my dad to get his picture taken. My uncle sulked all the way home; 'They were my pilots; I saw them first!' Sibling rivalry doesn't get more attractive with age, although it does get funnier. <G>