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Author Topic: The Gentlest Possible Way to do this? Wording help.  (Read 1162 times)

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EllenS

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Re: The Gentlest Possible Way to do this? Wording help.
« Reply #15 on: February 28, 2015, 10:40:36 AM »
- I'm sorry, but I've talked it over with DH and this is not going to work.

Your wording worked, I thought, but I'd avoid this one about your DH. I know that when people are in that kind of headspace, they can latch on to one piece. This one might be misinterpreted as "I would, but DH won't let me." I'm sure that's not the message you want to send.

Lots of good suggestions. I especially like being the emergency contact - that could give her peace of mind.

Good luck!

Thanks, that's a good point, I'll leave that off.

And thanks everyone for the insight. I will certainly offer to be the emergency contact and feel better about not accidentally feeding her internal troll.
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Re: The Gentlest Possible Way to do this? Wording help.
« Reply #16 on: February 28, 2015, 04:23:28 PM »
Is she re-directable?  What about:

"I'm sorry; that wouldn't work for us. You know what would be a great idea?  That program that we used to have DD in.  Why don't we make an appointment to go there . . . (extol virtues of program).  We can be an emergency backup for DGD; they know us there . . ."


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Re: The Gentlest Possible Way to do this? Wording help.
« Reply #17 on: Yesterday at 04:04:30 PM »
Because it's how I speak I would say "oh sweetie I just cant. It won't work for my schedule but let's brainstorm and come up with some ideas."

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it by trying to cushion my words any more than than.

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Re: The Gentlest Possible Way to do this? Good UPDATE p18
« Reply #18 on: Yesterday at 04:51:33 PM »
Thanks everybody, I spoke to Friend today and it went fine. I appreciate the input!

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Re: The Gentlest Possible Way to do this? Wording help.
« Reply #19 on: Yesterday at 05:29:40 PM »
In my state, providing daycare for a non-family child requires one to have specific training and be licensed.   Does yours?  Make the State be the bad guy.  'I'm sorry, Sally, but I've looked into licensing as a daycare and it just doesn't work."
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Re: The Gentlest Possible Way to do this? Wording help.
« Reply #20 on: Yesterday at 09:28:15 PM »
Actually, Elfmama, as long as it is less than a certain # of hours per day, home babysitting does not qualify as "daycare" with attendant regulations in our state. But its' OK, the convo went just fine.
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