I can't say whether I was graceful or not, I was just so confused in the moment. Then, when I understood what she was implying, I was just lost for words, especially given everything I've been going through to try and get pregnant.
I also just can't think of anything positive when someone implies that you just "look like you have kids" even though none are around. Does that mean I look fat, like my body looks like I've given birth; old, like I must have children by now; or tired, from raising up all those kids? How is it that parents look, exactly?
I do understand cutting people slack, but how is this person supposed to learn not to say stupid and hurtful things like that if everyone always reacted as though it were ok? I'm not sure why her face-saving is more important than my feelings--which I didn't even express because I was so bowled over at what a strange assumption it was.
The worst part was that she knew she was making an assumption that might very well not be the case. Why give voice to it??