Bridezilla

[edenparadox]

Friend: Don't turn into a gosh darned bridezilla. We think you might.
Eden: What an interesting assumption.

I haven't asked anyone for anything or even named my bridal party. No one has actually done anything either except Sunny who went dress browsing with me a couple of times and Dancer who I talked weddings with a lot.

[Twik]

I'd be tempted to play with this one a little.

"You think I might? You've been discussing this among yourselves? What exactly have you been noticing that would signal my impending transmogrification?"

Was this a friend, or was it actually a relative who really meant, "We notice that you've indicated you are not planning on letting your mother dictate every detail about the wedding, and such social upheaval has us worried?" 

[edenparadox]

It's a friend so I cut him slack and asked what made him think that and he basically told me that I've been very stressed and angry at the world. He's a dear but not terribly good with social skills and cues so I explained why it's okay to be concerned about me freaking out but not okay to tell me I'm going to become a psycho who thinks everyone exists to serve her.

He doesn't quite get the point of phrasing things more properly but he seems to get that bridezilla may be offensive because I explained what connotations it carries.

Basically he told me that he is concerned that I'm too stressed and worried. Which would have been a good thing to start with. *sigh* He's so lucky I know him or I would have reached through AIM and slapped him.

[Sophia]

Watching TV with FH, we saw a Bride's tantrum.  He doesn't watch Bridezillas with me, but maybe it was a commercial.  I said to him, "I hope I don't do that."  He said, "Don't worry, you probably will."  Which was actually a relief, because I would hate to think of him getting second thoughts because I got a little upset. 

[Bluenomi]

I love watching Bridezillas. Every time its on my H2B tells me I can't be like that during our wedding planning. It scares him a little bit. I find it the funniest thing ever.

[Twik]

It's a friend so I cut him slack and asked what made him think that and he basically told me that I've been very stressed and angry at the world. He's a dear but not terribly good with social skills and cues so I explained why it's okay to be concerned about me freaking out but not okay to tell me I'm going to become a psycho who thinks everyone exists to serve her.

I can understand a non-eHellion assuming a "bridezilla" was simply someone getting upset when wedding planning became difficult, rather than someone running roughshod over friends and family in order to get her way. It's probably not a phrase men in particular use a lot.

[edenparadox]

It's a friend so I cut him slack and asked what made him think that and he basically told me that I've been very stressed and angry at the world. He's a dear but not terribly good with social skills and cues so I explained why it's okay to be concerned about me freaking out but not okay to tell me I'm going to become a psycho who thinks everyone exists to serve her.

I can understand a non-eHellion assuming a "bridezilla" was simply someone getting upset when wedding planning became difficult, rather than someone running roughshod over friends and family in order to get her way. It's probably not a phrase men in particular use a lot.

Hence why I patiently discussed the issue with him instead of saying something unpleasant. 

You know... I don't know what DF thinks about the whole bridezilla thing. He doesn't take it seriously when I complain that some people say I'm probably going to become one (cause they think it's funny... ha...ha...).

[Dindrane]

I guess it's good the guy just didn't seem to understand the term?

I agree that it was a pretty rude thing to say, though, especially since you seem only to have gotten past the where and how many questions of your wedding.