How about emotionally violated? Certainly describes how it felt.
Nischi I am so sorry about your friend. How terrible...
I like that term, since it is very accurate.
A childhood friend is a born manipulator, and I have seen what she did to some guys, one being my brother. How she get inside his head is frightening. And what she did to my brother definitely qualifies as violation.
Your poor brother. Its good that he has you looking after him. It is awful when people do this - somehow they mess someone else all up, and yet manipulate so well that they make themselves look completely innocent. I'm glad you have been able to see through her.
Actually in my opinion, the saddest part is they get the victim to think that they deserve to br treated like that, and that they have no value.
That's what happened to me. He slowly chipped away at my self-esteem, dangled the "carrot" of his love in front of my nose and made me believe that we could be happy if I just worked harder, gave up more and felt more and more worthless. He got what he wanted out of me (not s*e*x*, thank goodness), but he got his opportunity to hurt me very, very badly whilst being able to look as though he didn't care (and he didn't. He left me when I was in Denver visiting him. Thankfully, a friend of his took pity on me and drove me to the airport).
No, I've never been raped, but "Heart rape" and rape-rape are two different things. Sexual abuse and emotional abuse aren't the same thing, but we use a common word to describe them and I don't see how this is any difference. Abuse is abuse, and rape is rape. "Emotionally Violated" makes a lot of sense, but unless you've been through it, it almost seems to me that you (general) don't think it's a serious thing. I very nearly committed suicide over what the ex did to me and it's going to take me a very, very long time to get over it. I would imagine a sexual rape victim would have had a similar reaction, even if it would have not been the same.
(Knows she'll probably get flamed for this)