I called her an hour ago and asked why she forwarded my e-mail. I explained that forwarding my e-mail with my e-mail address in it was rude and incorrect. Her reaction indicated that she was either totally clueless or completely unrepentant of committing an electronic faux pas. She said that when she read the article and recognized some of his behaviors in it (ones from the period of their relationship) she wanted to see if he recognized himself in it. Sit down for the next part:
He claims he "hit the wrong button" and sent the response to me in error. This is a complete crock, as we know that hitting "reply" or "reply all" on a forwarded message sends the reply only to the person who forwarded the message and anyone else they forwarded it to. She also said he claimed to be sorry.
I am so not buying this and I said so. I told her that the response was clearly meant for me as there was no way this could be an accident. Admittedly, I could have been more explicit and should have read it back to her word for word. I asked about the other friend and speculated about whether something like this happened with her; her response was that Jean is computerphobic, doesn't own one, doesn't want one, and doesn't even have a free e-mail account. The silence is broken; apparently Jean called day before yesterday and has changed her mind about this. Yeah; right.
She asked me if I was going to write back to him. I told her I wasn't taking the bait and I wasn't going to get involved.
The capper is that he sent her a ring. Sterling silver with a garnet (her birthstone). And a big heaping hunk of hooey story about a female jewelry designer who gave it to him three years ago after (he said) identifying him astrologically and telling him that someday there would be a woman he would give this ring to. I'll spare you the details (which I will probably forget by tomorrow) but suffice it to say that I told her that this was a clever story. She said that lots of people back in the day tried to tell her that she shouldn't be involved with him, and I responded that if so many different people said this, there had to be a valid reason.
I finished by telling her I never want to hear another word about this guy ever again. I almost wish I hadn't as this leaves him with a completely clear field to kill her heart all over again. Having said that, it probably doesn't matter because she doesn't take any of my advice anyway.