Family and Christmas

[Evil Duckie]

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[HogwartsAlum]

You aren't.  FIL is being rude.  He can't say he was fine with it and then get all snarky about it.  Anyway, he should be more concerned with your DS's surgery than what is convenient or inconvenient for him!

Hope the little guy is okay.

[Tabris]

You're being rude by, uh.....

Well, you just ARE, okay! How dare your son need surgery? How dare the doctors not phone your FIL first to make sure the date is okay by him?

I have a brilliant idea. Since they're used to coming to your house for the family gathering, maybe they need to find someone else's house to hold it at so they can have their accustomed time.

**sigh**

[Alida]

He wants you to reschedule SURGERY instead of DINNER?

The mind boggles.  It just boggles.

[MsEva]

You have my sympathy. Some people really think that the sun rises and sets on them. My SIL has a MIL that could fill a whole book. The woman got mad at my nephew because he had to catch a flight in the afternoon on Christmas day. He was ruining her Christmas because he refused to call his Navy CO and tell him his grandma didn't want him to go back to Saudi Arabia until after the holidays were over. 

At least you know you are not alone.

[gjcva1]

simply unbelievable.  i'm not a grandparent yet, but i sincerely hope that i would be more concerned about the well-being of my grandson than my traditional Christmas observance!! 

YOU are not being at all rude....but if i open the dictionary to jerk, will i find your FIL's picture there?

[Lisbeth]

That's so rude...of your FIL.

How would he feel if he was asked to reschedule his own surgery for someone else's convenience?

[Moogle]

I find it so strange that a grandparent would put HIS own Christmas celebration above that of the health of his own grandchild.   

[MineralDiva]

"Rude and ungrateful?"  Is there oxygen on his planet?

[JoyinVirginia]

So if someone has an accident or illness and needs to go to the Emergency Room, they should just delay it until FIL approves the schedule?
Let's hope he never has a REAL problem in his life! Sheesh!
Joy in Virginia

[Evalieutions]

When I was 22, I was in a roll over vehicle accident which resulted in a broken back and a skull fracture.  When my 16 year old sister visited me in the hospital, the first thing she said was, "Thanks, Evalieutions!  Now Mom and Dad don't have time to take me to get my driver's license!"  Various tubes prevented me from being plunged to the depths.

[sammycat]

You are most definitely NOT being rude, your FIL is.  I assume the gathering is not being held on Christmas Day itself?  In which case what difference does it make to your FIL to have the meal on a different day?  Is he always like this or is this new behaviour?

And best wishes that your son's surgery goes well.

[Alida]

A few years ago, my cousin was involved in a car accident on Thanksgiving that left her in a coma for two weeks.  The entire family - from her parents and siblings to aunts, uncles, cousins and friends - raced for the hospital, leaving everything on the table. 

I don't remember a single person complaining about how my cousin ruined the holiday!  Everyone was worried for her, not their holiday plans.

[Tabris]

I don't remember a single person complaining about how my cousin ruined the holiday!  Everyone was worried for her, not their holiday plans.

Clearly your family has its priorities misordered. First they should have eaten. Second they should have griped about your cousin ruining the holiday. And third, they should have all gone home to call people on the phone to complain about your cousin, leaving your aunt and uncle alone to go to the hospital to see about their daughter.

At least, that's what the OP's FIL recommends in his book "How Not To Be A Rude And Ungrateful Family Member."

[Alida]

At least, that's what the OP's FIL recommends in his book "How Not To Be A Rude And Ungrateful Family Member."

Thank you for the morning laugh!