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Chibikoky:
So...not at the Golden Arches anymore. I've been working in the deli section of a grocery store for the past few months, and most of the ladies there are very nice, and any personal quirks they may have are fairly innocuous.

Um, except for one, I'll call her S.

She was hired maybe a month before me, and no one really cared for her. I didn't understand why until I had settled in.

She is the most annoying...aggravating...PA person I have ever met. I know...I sound rather dramatic. A bit of background: I replaced L, my BF's ex-girlfriend from before I met him, working in the deli as a rather strange coincidence. She's very nice and I've never had a problem being around her, or my BF being around her without me. (The following is an abbreviated list of things she's done, in the past three months.)

* Reflipped the sandwich bar which was already done and was not her job that day, claiming that the sides of the containers were smeared, and yet not getting the salad bar done until very close to closing. (tuna fish and sandwich spreads do smear...especially when you've used them multiple times)

* Told every male employee she could find that I was single, although she knows very well I'm not

* Gone around telling everyone that I stole L's boyfriend in a gloating manner (she doesn't like L, so she was...pleased with the idea I guess?)

* Told me I was prettier than L, in that same manner

* And then saying, in a most scandalized manner, "You let him see her?!" Yes. He's a person too, and I see no harm whatsoever in it

* Repeatedly asking when I was getting married, declaring she was coming when I did (oh no she's not), and telling C, a slightly coworker who is engaged (I'm not, and it's out of the question for at least another couple years) that she was suprised I wasn't getting married before her

* Declared if we had a test she was going to sit next to me and cheat off of me because "you're so smart!" and was mildly angry when I said no way in h*ll.

* Accused me of calling her a witch (no, I didn't. C's opinion was that S knew I don't usually swear so she couldn't claim I called her a b*tch...)

* Accused just about everyone of talking behind her back while we look confused because it was an innocent conversation

* But has no problem talking behind other people's backs

* Tells you off for arguing in front of customers...when she started it by saying you were rolling your eyes at her when you weren't...and continuing accusing you of doing so when you say you weren't

* And add all this and more...plus various silly things you've called her on only to get sarcastic "You're so smart" or "Oh, you think you're the boss now? I'm just kidding!" to get, just as you're fed up..."Oh, I love you guys..."

She is driving me nuts. Any suggestions of how to deal with her madness would be greatly appreciated, and I appreciate the effort it must have taken to get through this entirely too long rant/complaint list/thing...

Verruca:
I would ignore her and not engage in any conversation that didn't directly relate to the work at hand.  If she tried to engage me in conversation, I'd give answers that were as terse as possible.  I wouldn't care if they were true.  I also wouldn't bother being diplomatic if I felt the need to call her on anything. 

If you wanted, you could add a judicious smile to your answer - just keep everything as shallow as possible.  Doing this would be easier for me than thinking up a really great comeback.  My goal wouldn't be to shame her or point out how rude she's being, it would only be to keep her at arm's length.

"How's your boyfriend?"
"Fine."

"When are you getting married?"
"Never."

"Why are you so mean to me?"
"Sorry."

"The moon is made of green cheese."
"No it's not."

"You're prettier than L."
"Thank you." (deadpan, no smile, nothing that makes her think that she's just scored points with you)

"You let him see her?"
"Yes."

"You aren't worried about what could happen?"
"No."

"Well, *I* would worry..."
(walk away)

Heh, this probably isn't the best advice - just reading about her is frustrating.  She sounds manipulative and horrible.  People like that make me feel really really mean.  If nothing else, you have my sympathy for having to work with her.

Clara Bow:
Have you seen "Fried Green Tomatoes"?? Secret's in the sauce, peaches.
Okay, I'm putting evil Auntie back in the box....
One word answers and avoiding her as much as possible are probably going to be your only recourse in this matter. You might tell her to back off when she's seriously getting on your last nerve, but prepare to hear her whine about it.
As far as neglecting her duties, tell management and tell them every time it happens. Do not let her put her work off on you and everyone else.

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