I literally can't imagine NOT giving any recipe of mine to anyone who asks for it, whether I trust their cooking skills or not. The idea that something is somehow more "special" because other people can't enjoy it, or can only enjoy it when *you* deign to serve it to them is foreign to me. I don't even view it as an etiquette issue, just a basic human interaction thing. If I can increase someone's happiness in a way that doesn't cost me anything (except self-importance or rigid family tradition), I'd do it in a second. My dead grandfather would probably love as many people as possible to enjoy his skillet cornbread or "tuna surprise" casserole.
You have every right to do with your recipes what you want, others have the same right. Whether you agree with it or not. I don't share recipes, most things I don't use or follow recipes and if I do - well there's this neat law in the US that covers published works and how they can be deciminated. It's called copy right. I don't violate it. I don't copy music, I don't copy videos, I don't copy Needlework patters and I don't copy publsihed recipes.
I was stunned to see so many of what I consider "Grinch"-like attitudes here about recipe sharing. Now I have this image of so many of you huddled in your pantries grasping a padlocked box full of top-secret recipes. The horror!
this boils down to "different strokes for different folks" You can imagine folks any way you choose but I'd bet that the same folks who don't share recipes are often very giving in other ways. So you give away everything someone else demands of you?
I also guarantee that some of you non-sharers are happy to post many of these same recipes on the internet (even this site!) for millions to see, but wouldn't give it to your best friend or next-door neighbor, because it might dilute your "standing" locally for others nearby to be able to pull off (or, heaven forbid, *not* pull off) your masterful creations.
After 11 posts you *KNOW* what we would do? Really, now. That's very, um, interesting.
Sorry to sound so harsh, but I just can't believe that so many people would hold back a potential source of happiness to others for reasons that all pretty much distill down to *pride*.
And pride in anything is *such* a bad thing, and no one should *ever* have ANYTHING that someone else wants? You don't sound harsh sound jealous and like no one's ever told you "no" before.
People should be allowed, no ARE allowed to have "signature" dishes, to have things they are not obligated to share, to enjoy the fruits of their OWN labour,,,that includes cooking, and all other arts ( and crafts), and somethines they don't care to share or teach, that's just life sometimes.