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My friend dropping story

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123bees:
I didn't want to hijack the other thread, so here is my story/question.

J was my college roommate.  We were always close even though her laziness/loose morals often bothered me.  I am sure my anal retentiveness got to her as well.  Other than a few normal spats, we were okay.  Eventually she did some things I could not keep my mouth shut about much longer (dating a married guy with kids for one) so we drifted apart but did keep in touch after graduation.  Two weeks from my wedding day (MIL had surgery and I was super stressed), she sends me a message on MySpace.  It says that she couldn't believe that I was going through with the wedding because I could do much better (totally not true!).  I was stunned.  I didn't want a scene at my wedding and was truly afraid she'd cause one.  Since she was already invited I explained the situation to a mutual friend who promised to keep an eye on her at my wedding.  At this time I simply didn't want to think she meant it so I put it out of my mind and our wedding was perfect.

FF a few months and she contacts me out of the blue after mutual friend hints that she should apologize.  She claims that a random person hacked her account and sent the message.  I want to give her the benefit of the doubt but it was too much her style not to be her.  Now I am civil but keep her at a distance.  What would you do?  Would this have been a rare instance where uninviting someone would have been excusable?

aloe:
I think you did the right thing, not uninviting her but having her watched at the wedding. 
Though you nor I can't know for sure, but her 'account hacked' story sounds very suspicious.  I think she most likely is lying to you.

If she were my friend, I would think seriously about dropping her.
I'm sorry this happened to you.  Things like this are always hard.

smarterthanu213:
I would say it's probably a lie trying to worm her way back into your life. The next time she contacts you just say something to the effect of "I know we have our differences, and I'd hate for us to part ways, but I'm just so busy I don't know when I'd ever have time for our friendship. Maybe after life settles down..."

Alida:
Acknowledge the apology and no more.  I fully agree with what someone else said elsewhere... "Forgive, but don't forget."

dawbs:
I'd likely accept the apology and keep your distance.

Because she *might* be telling the truth...but I think most folks who say they were 'hacked' are lying.

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