I am HR mom for a child at school and was on a committee for a special event. Time went on and I sent out an e-mail asking, "how are plans coming? Have we decided on abc? Do we have xyz..."
And I got a response of, "oh, that was done a while ago. Sorry your teacher missed it. And btw, so-and-so is in charge, all is well."
I sent an e-mail to all the members explaining that my teacher was new this year and because of a missed-communication from another party, that NONE of her students had a chance to sign-up, and that I had parents askng questions since they knew I was the contact person, what to tell them?
I received an e-mail in turn stating that I was a last-minute complainer, too bad that my child would not get to star in this event, so-and-so was doing a fabulous job, would not change a thing.
Well, something changed because 2 days before the event, 3 children in my teacher's class were given music to learn for performance. 11 children had signed up for various events, but only music was deemed "easy" enough to learn quicky. Other events required lines and scripts and routines. I had 2 moms call me crying over this. Meanwhile, I got sent yet another committee e-mail saying that we all need to get along, so-and-so's friend has apologized for the missed-sign-up, and no big deal.
End result--this huge event, incl. food and performances, left with some parents doing the work of 3 or more, and some not doing anything because "it is all under control."
Nevermind that some parents signed up right away and were ignored or given jobs they had difficulty with (i.e. I can send this particular item but cannot be there b/c I have to work...ok, be here at this time...I can't, fine, I will re-arrange with my boss...oh, you also want me to bring ANOTHER food item I did not sign for, that cost more, and you will pay me back AFTER the event? No, I need the cash NOW)
others said they would be there to pitch in as needed (set-up, serve, tear-down) and were told to simply go to the "viewing-room" because they had not bothered to sign-up, and thus were not needed.
Yes. all in all, it went well. But to have grown women calling me to cry about their child, to have 2 committee members reject apologies and now barely speak to each other, I think it was not so great in the end.
I have compiled notes for next year, everything from breaking up the sign-up sheet, to decorating tips, but I am pretty sure if I turn it in, I will be seen as snarky.
I cannot serve on this committe next year because my children are now too old.
My ghast was flabbered over all this mess. It seemed to me that if So-and-so had simply delegated, and kept ALL the committee members informed, instead of mostly just her carpool buddy, and had weekly reports done instead of one giant sign-up (over 70 items,) then it would have been better.
I may just keep my notes to myself. I really do not like feeling 13 again!