I'd be interested to see how the voting fell if there was another category: "I don't care, if you're my friend, I'll buy you a gift, but I am not going to your first or your 17th baby shower."
I can't be the only one, can I? I just won't go to them. What a boring, pastel-y waste of an afternoon. I don't like showers in general but baby showers are just heinous. There is something so incredibly off-putting about being expected to eat cute food and ooh and ahh over all the gifts that someone received.
I hate it all but especially the oohing and ahhing over gifts thing. It's just so - ostentatious and consumeristic. "Ooh, stuff! And look, MORE STUFF!" Even if you adore babies, isn't that like the most boring thing ever? I don't grudge the gifts but good lord, get a grip ladies. It's a onesie, or a shoe, or a bib. There are only so many times a year I can convincingly say "awwww" and I don't want to waste them all in one afternoon.
If you're my friend and I care about you, I'm truly happy for you if you're having a wanted baby. I'll tell you that, and I'll show you that by my actions. But one of those actions will not be sitting around in a room pre-worshipping, not even the baby, but the baby's STUFF.