Ebay conundrum (long, sorry!)

[madmusician]

Just to clarify a few things...I've asked BF to not use my account for other people anymore. He has offered more than once to cover the money, and if he does, we will re-sell the item. I'd just rather have George be responsible and pay for what he purcahsed--save me the hassel of having to re-sell the stupid thing, and such.

[lilaenne]

If you're close enough with her to feel comfortable doing so, please please please find a way to tell Anne. I've lived with the money-lying-and-manipulating type (and the simply money-irresponsible type) and she could still be totally in the dark about this, and it jeapordizes her financial security.

My husband is the seriously-money-irresponsible type. I basically had to seize his check book, debit card, and bank numbers when we joined our finances, and he was more relieved than offended. He really had no good examples about money growing up (I had to teach him how to write a check when we were in our early 20s) and he's now seen enough of how I run our finances that he can be trusted not to put us in the poorhouse.

If it turns out George is more money-manipulative, she'll need the heads up so that any income of her own can be put in a seperate savings account in case of a true emergency.

[ShadesOfGrey]

Just to clarify a few things...I've asked BF to not use my account for other people anymore. He has offered more than once to cover the money, and if he does, we will re-sell the item. I'd just rather have George be responsible and pay for what he purcahsed--save me the hassel of having to re-sell the stupid thing, and such.

Perfect solution.  I would want George to pay to, but that's really between him and your BF.  I do agree with Slartibartfast that you being out $60 should be enough to corrale these actions in the future, but if I were out $60, I wouldnt want to hand over the item either!

[JudiAU]

You aren't really a party to the transaction. Your boyfriend asked to remove $57 from your account and it his debt to pay. He should pay you because you are the innocent party and then try and recoup the money from George.

Personally, if he didn't tell you this was a third-party purchase then I think you should consider changing your passwords and not allowing further use of the account.

[Mikayla]

Just to clarify a few things...I've asked BF to not use my account for other people anymore. He has offered more than once to cover the money, and if he does, we will re-sell the item. I'd just rather have George be responsible and pay for what he purcahsed--save me the hassel of having to re-sell the stupid thing, and such.

When I get into messes like this, I've found the best solution is to simplify it and then proceed.

In this case, your BF needs to repay you for his purchase, per the conditions you placed on using the account.

What happens after that is between your BF and George. 

[TZ]

I agree with JudiAU.  You made a deal with your boyfriend, not George.  Whatever George and BF work out is between them and has nothing to do with you (thanks, Judge Judy!).  Accept the money from BF and move on.  I would not recommend saying anything to Anne for the reasons mentioned above.  It's mighty presumptuous to assume she doesn't know what's going on, and, when you get right down to it, it is nobody's business but their own.

Is there any reason why BF can't get his own eBay and PayPal accounts?

[ohjodi]

Frankly, I'd change the password on the eBay account, and have your BF get his own account.

Why doesn't he have his own account in the first place??

Why did he not tell you that the purchase was on behalf of someone ELSE?

He lied to you when he asked if HE could buy something with your account.

I don't understand why THAT's not the issue, but George IS.

[MineralDiva]

As I see it, the BF made the agreement with George for payment, knowing he was going to be using your account to secure the purchase (with your permission).  Let BF work it out with George.

As long as your account is covered, it's not your problem if BF got suckered by George.  And if he did get suckered, perhaps it won't be so easy for George to talk him into making a purchase with no cash in hand, next time. 

The consequences are BF's to bear.  Not yours.  And meddling into George and Anne's personal business would be presumptuous on your part.  No matter what your feelings.