I dearly love my MIL; I really do. But one of the things that is sometimes nice and sometimes not is how she will make little jokes out of everything - sometimes it's funny, sometimes it's PA, sometimes it's both, but it's driving me nuts now.
My DH (married 8 months now) has been unemployed for several months, and to be honest, isn't looking very hard. It's driving me nuts, DH knows it, and it's a big source of stress between the two of us. DH will readily admit that "industriousness" is not one of his strong points - I won't say he's lazy, but he's very bad at time management and procrastination, and generally with making himself do things he doesn't want to do.
Well MIL is making her little jokes about this, and I feel stuck. Usually I can joke along with MIL on various things, but last night she said something about seeing a local government office and "It would be the perfect job for you! Everyone was sitting around, talking, playing computer games, reading, and not doing any work! Why don't you apply there?"
DH doesn't say anything (he is a really quiet guy), so I always feel like I need to make some comment to MIL after she makes one of her jokes. For this kind of thing, though, I don't know what to say. On the one hand, I do agree with her - DH is being lazy and needs to get up off his butt and apply to jobs. On the other hand, I'm not going to take my MIL's side insulting my husband! I try not to tell her anything I'm not 100% satisfied with DH about, because then he gets nagged about it from two fronts.
So what should I do? I'm pretty sure DH isn't going to be employed again soon, so these kinds of comments will keep coming up, and I need to find a way to react to them that isn't ragging on my DH and isn't going to make my MIL hate me. We do get along very well right now, and I don't want to ruin that.