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Ko-Ko:
Remember the post I wrote about my annoying grandmother? Well, she is causing trouble again. She was over a few days ago, and I decided to be nice and show her some photos from a school trip I had been on. One of the pictures was a picture of me with some friends at the hotel pool. She looked at the picture, noticed that I was wearing a halter top swimsuit, and blew up. She started yelling that it was innappropriate, it was too low cut, people would get the wrong idea, not to mention there were boys around! Enough about the boys! Half the population is male, so she is going to have to get used to the idea. Sure the top is fairly low cut, but it is a swimsuit! I said, "Grandma, I know you are trying to help, but this is how girls my age dress when they go to the pool. Things are different than when you my age, and swimsuits like this are normal now."

She actually quieted down after that, and the rest of the visit went on uneventfully. Unfortunately, my father came home a couple of days later and said Grandma had a gift for me. I opened the box, and found a one-piece swimsuit. She pulls this PA behavior all the time to get people to do what she wants. I have decided to give the swimsuit to charity, as there is no way I will wear it. Since my parents are spineless when it comes to her, is there anything I can do about her? And do PA presents require a thank you note? Thanks for reading.

Ko-Ko

RoseRose:
Yes, PA presents require a thank you note.

And, as for what you can do, will your parents back you up if you stand up for yourself?

Ko-Ko:
I think they would stand up for me, but I would have to say something first. They wouldn't start defending me from her on their own though.

Ko-Ko

RoseRose:
Then defend yourself, like you did with the bathing suit.  Just ignore the PAness that you can, and when she says something overt, make a comment about how her choices and yours don't have to be the same.

But then, I never did a very good job of standing up to my grandmother's PAness... so maybe my advice might not be the best.

IndianInlaw:
Just get rid of it and be done.

Like water off a duck.

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