Vent - Get out of her ear!

[Athos_000]

ugh! Extreme PDA is just disgusting (and I do consider ear-licking at the dinner table extreme). I would actually bring this up to the group and see if it bothers anyone else. If it does, the group should tell the mother that her son and GF will no longer be welcome to join the group for dinner if they continue their antics. They would get one chance to behave, if they can't control themselves, too bad for them. I realize this will probably alienate the mother, but really, why should everyone be subjected to this? Is the mother's contribution to the group worth it? Blech!

If, on the other hand, nobody else is bothered by it, and the couple wouldn't stop when asked politely,  I would probably stop attending the dinners, or ask to be seated as far from them as possible.



edited because one and once are not the same word 

[kethria]

I'm of the opinion that excessive PDA is a form of abuse... it's a way to "control" the woman. I think Dear Abby or Annie's Mailbox had a letter on this. It would annoy me!

[littlelauraj]

This thread reminds me of a neighbor of mine and her husband.  (And yes, it's the same neighbor I always post about-I'm starting to feel like a stalker or something.)

Anyway, they attend the same church as an acquaintance of mine.  The acquaintance can't stand having them at services because Wife is constantly touching and kissing her husband, *during services*.  I almost didn't believe it until they came to a neighborhood party and she did it again at my dining room table.  Nothing so nasty as what was described in the OP, but still too much.  It seems like an extreme way to mark your territory.  I feel sorry for someone that insecure.

[Rose2Bear]

How strange that he would do that not only in front of strangers but his own MOTHER! I'd be so embarassed!

[hobish]

I'm of the opinion that excessive PDA is a form of abuse... it's a way to "control" the woman. I think Dear Abby or Annie's Mailbox had a letter on this. It would annoy me!

I wholeheartedly agree.
...and even if it wasn't a form of abuse, what the OP described is downright digusting AND rude.

[sammycat]

Ugh!  How revolting!!!! Just thinking about it makes me feel blech, let alone if I was trying to eat in front of someone doing it. He sounds extremely immature and insecure.  The part about whispering at someone whilst looking at them - rude, rude, rude, rude.  Most people have hopefully outgrown that by the end of primary school.

I'd bring it up with other group members (how many of you are there?) and if some or all of them are just as sickened as you are, then definitely say something to the mother. (In fact, even if none of them are bothered by it, still say something to his mother).  If she refuses to say something to him about his behaviour, I'd say something myself, very directly and without humour.   Point out that most mature, secure adults don't feel the need to mark their territory/behave in this way. If he continues to act this way, which he probably will, then get up and walk out. Perhaps have an agreement within the group that if this happens even one more time that all of those who are bothered by it will walk out. 

Also, if the mother refuses to say anything, or doesn't even see a problem with it, then stop asking her to the dinners.

[Suze]

Ick - Ick and  more Ick -- some things should stay behind closed doors.

About the whispering thing though

If a couple of you get together and "do it back" once or twice.  You know whisper and point at him. He might just get all cheesed off and not come back to any of these dinners. 

Ok - fun to think about but not very nice to do -- I know.

I think the get up and walk out is a good idea though. Or at least move to another table.

[Cyndi]

Maybe he's just making sure she has good ear hygiene

[hobish]

Maybe he's just making sure she has good ear hygiene

>>splutter<< Haa haaaaa haa haaa haa haaa!!!

[Cyndi]

Hehe

To the OP: Perhaps you should turn and start picking imaginary fleas out of your friends' hair. If the boy and his girl start to notice the weirdness, tell them that's how they're making you feel.


.....okay I'm done being tongue in cheek, I promise!

Seriously, what others have said. Talk to the others and approach them as a group.

[hobish]

Did your mom ever tell you that if you didn't clean your ears they'd grow potatos?

I was picturing him pulling potatos out of her ear with his tongue. Yech.

[Gigi]

Or watermelons, which is what my folks would say.

[FoxPaws]

Apparently, ginormous signs that say:

I Am Extremely Needy
Please Pay Attention To Me

are more expensive than I thought. It's a shame this young couple must go to such lengths to get that point across.

I vote with asking to be seated at a separate table and not mincing words about why: "I'm afraid Tasteless and Tacky's floor show isn't good for my appetite. I've spent too much [money on dues, time volunteering, whatever] not to enjoy my evening."

[hobish]

Yes. Joking aside, i don't think it would be rude at all to try not to eat with the two, and if asked why answer honestly. That kind of behavior is unacceptable in public.

[Lisbeth]

I'm of the opinion that excessive PDA is a form of abuse... it's a way to "control" the woman. I think Dear Abby or Annie's Mailbox had a letter on this. It would annoy me!

Unless one of the principals objects, I don't know that excessive PDA is abusive.  But I do think it's rude in the presence of others. 

The subway seems to be PDA Central in NYC...I'm always seeing people making out.  Once I had to pass a couple doing it on the stairs in a subway station, and they were blocking my path.  I said loudly "Excuse me" to get their attention.  Another time, when I was leaving a subway station, this couple kept making out while moving through a tunnel, and they ran into me because they weren't looking where they were going.  They apologized, but it was annoying.