Not quite the same, but while settling my Momís estate last year, I realized that she hadnít willed anything specifically to my step-niece, but had bequeathed a very nice Native Canadian carving (with all the provenance for insurance purposes, as well has having a very interesting history to the piece) to my step-nephew (his name was on a sticky note under the carving Ė she had done that to a lot of the art work she had) who had visited her on a regular basis even before she was in the hospital and helped out whenever he was asked moving furniture, fixing her laptop and just kept in touch with her. He was touched by her leaving something he really liked. He said he had mentioned once how beautiful it was and appreciated the fact she had remembered.
While going through her jewellery, I found a diamond solitaire that would be the approximately the same value as the carving (approximately $2,500) and asked my step-sister to give to her in memory of my Mom. I definitely didnít have to do that and step-niece hadnít made any effort to visit her while she was in hospital, didnít show up at the memorial, etc. Never got a thank you, other than a mention from my step-sister that the ring didnít fit her and she was going to sell it. Her gift Ė her decision, so it doesnít matter to me, but apparently she had also expected to get the car I signed over to my step-sister while my Mom was still alive (we knew she wasnít going to be driving if she did recover and I donít drive). Havenít heard a peep from SN since my Momís death.
As for my DSS Ė as I said, I signed over the car to her before my Momís death, otherwise, it would have been included in the estate and then it would have gotten complicated. At the time, we had the car valued and we agreed the price of the car would be deducted from her share of the estate. After a while, I realized that DSS was doing a lot of the leg work since sheís retired and drives and Iím still full-time, far from the banks, lawyers and such involved in settling the estate and told her that the car would be a gift and to not worry about deducting from the estate. She also took much of the furniture, computers, TV and whatever else she wanted. Approximate value was the same as the cash amount my DB and I received.
That being said Ė weíre in the very last stage of settling everything and she passive-aggressively IMíd me the other day that she wished the price of gas was lower because she had to drive to 2 different places to drop off legal papers. (Aside Ė I know sheís pretty well gone through all the money already and is fishing for more than the third share weíre supposed to get at the very end. Again Ė none of my business, but she had originally been written completely out of the will and was only recently written back in.)
I hope I wasnít rude, but simply asked her what she had done with the car I gave herÖ
She gave the car to SN, since had bought a new car for herself with the proceeds of the sale of the condo. Again Ė none of my business, but she could have sold or traded the car in instead of giving it away.
People do get greedy. I wish I still had my Mom rather than any amount of money.
BTW Ė I will, most likely, give her additional $ out of both my DBís and my share of the remaining estate, but I donít like being guilted into it.