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Shoo:
The other day my neighbor (Katie) and I took our kids to a small hill in the neighborhood so they could go sledding.  We spent over an hour together, chit chatting and whatnot.  Of course, it was cold outside, so we were bundled up.

When we returned to our street, a new neighbor was outside with her kids.  We stopped to introduce ourselves.  A few minutes into the conversation, the new neighbor says to Katie, "I see you're pregnant!  When is the baby due?"  Katy says, "Yes, it's going to be early summer."

My eyes got big.  I didn't know she was pregnant.  After she mentioned it, however, I looked at her and she does, indeed, have a pregnant belly.  Even with her winter coat on, she looks pregnant.

The problem is, she's not a terribly fat woman, but she does carry some weight around the middle, like a lot of us, and I honestly did not think twice about the way she looked that day.  It would have never occurred to me in a million years that she was pregnant.  Now I'm feeling a bit guilty that I didn't notice her baby bump, and I'm wondering if she thinks I'm rude for assuming she's just got a thick middle, and not actually pregnant.

It was quite an awkward moment.  I congratulated her immediately, of course, but felt really weird about the fact that I've known her for over a year and this new person we've just met can tell she's pregnant and I can't!

She's just 3 months along, so she's just at the point of wanting to tell people about her pregnancy.  But she shows early and she shows big, so her pregnancy is obvious already.  Just not to me, apparently.  I surely don't want her to think that *I* think she's fat and didn't notice her pregnancy.  Sigh.

DottyG:
This is one of those times when the person who mentioned it got it right and all turned out ok.  This was lucky on her part.  See the thread about people who are NOT pregnant and people think they are.

The "rude" one - if there is one - might be the person who mentioned the suspected pregnancy, as she could have been wrong.  Again, she got lucky but shouldn't use this as her guide for the future!

I say stick with the rule of not saying anything unless the other person mentions it or you see a baby emerging.  You're safe that way.

Shoo:

--- Quote from: Dottyg on January 21, 2007, 11:26:12 AM ---I say stick with the rule of not saying anything unless the other person mentions it or you see a baby emerging.  You're safe that way.

--- End quote ---

Thanks, Dotty.  This made me giggle.  But it's so true.

Feeling better.

Suze:
One of the ladies that I used to work with had a "feel" for baby bumps.  She would look at a person and tell them that they were pregnant. 

We had a couple of gals that swore up and down that they couldn't be - done the little tests and all that rot.  Were going to the Dr's for other problems. can't be, no way, no how

Yep - they were.

She told us once that a pregnate woman had a "look" about her.  (I think that she read auras without relizing it)  Of course some of these women started "walking funny" almost right away. those were easy to tell.

She also saw ghosts - so who knows?

FoxPaws:

--- Quote from: Suze on January 21, 2007, 12:28:35 PM ---One of the ladies that I used to work with had a "feel" for baby bumps.  She would look at a person and tell them that they were pregnant.
--- End quote ---

I have a cousin who can tell the gender of a baby. They thought it was fluke the first few times (she was pre-school aged), but she's done it all her life, and as far as I know, never missed. Some people just have a gift.

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