I wish we could make some changes with how my family does Christmas. With us, it was decided over a decade ago that we would only buy gifts for the children. And this was fine when they were small, but now they are all entering their early teenage years. I would have thought that, at this age, the parents would be starting to teach their kids about giving out gifts in return. And I don't mean gifts that cost money. I'm talking about if they all just made things to hand out, like Popsicle stick picture frames, or drawings, or make an ornament out of a pine cone and some glitter. I just think they are old enough now that they ought to be introduced to the idea that we give and receive presents for the holiday. I think it's a bad model for them to a see a room full of adults get together, year after year, and hand them gifts and never be given anything in return. It teaches them that this is the standard- that the holidays are about gifts and fun, and that they never need to think of anyone outside themselves. I'm trying to think of the best way to express this feeling to these parents (who are my own siblings).