Let me preface this with the information that the kids that grew up with my kids are now in their mid-twenties and often come to see us. It is nice that they do, and most of the time we enjoy their company.
However one young woman I will call Mary has married a kind of obnoxious man I will call Mark. I like her a lot. He is well....pushy.
While my DD was visiting for Chirstmas they were over and Mark was incredibly rude to DD who was once Mary's best friend. Mark had never met DD before and declared to my DH that DD was 'jealous' of his marriage to Mary. I told my daughter not to make her dislike so obvious. She said she knew but he just kept making stupid remarks.
The icing on the cake though was last week.
I was having a meeting at my home. I just became chairman of this group and was expecting 10 women any minute. Mark called about 15 minutes before the meeting began asking if it was okay if he and Mary came over. I said that it wouldn't work because I was having a meeting.
Mark called back a few minutes later just as my guests were arriving and spoke to my DH saying that a) they had to come over as it was an emergency, b)he needed to take a shower right now! as he was in terrible back pain.
My DH was trying to make the situation work while he talked to Mark on the phone. I was busy ushering guests into the house. I whispered to DH to tell them it was just not possible right now.
Since then I have heard that Mark was insulted by our 'selfish' behavior.
I feel so sorry for Mary. Mark is isolating her from all her friends and family by his behavior.