What catches your hair on fire?

[Chocolate Cake]

To be more precise:  What phrases, when said to you, cause you to immediately become very upset?

Naturally, we can all agree that being called a vulgar name would cause immediate anger.   

But what about other phrases?  On another thread, a poster stated that being told "I'm disappointed in you" raises her hackles due to her childhood memory of being told so too frequently and indiscriminately by a parent.

So....what could someone say to you that would color your world red?

[Ko-Ko]

Anyone insulting my friends. Only I'm allowed to insult my friends! If someone insults me, I just go, "Yeah, you'll really funny, now shut up," and that's the end of it, but when someone insults my friends, that just makes me really angry.    The worst thing is when someone says any phrase about someone that is somewhat true, like calling an overweight person names about being fat. That's just awful.

Ko-Ko

[Chivewarrior]

You know, I don't think there is anything other than the outright insulting... although being told that I must have a temper because I have red hair irritates me, but I can't let it show because that just proves their point!

Oh, and being told that I can't possibly learn to work the lights in the theater. People do manage to do it!

[Shoo]

Referring to people with children as "irresponsible parents of the human variety" really really bugs me.

[freakyfemme]

Loaded apologies, like "I'm sorry you feel that way," or "I'm sorry, BUT......."  My mom is the Queen of the Sorrybuts, and all it does is escalate arguments and give her an opening to insult me more.  Like, "Well, I'm SORRY, but you could stand to be 20 pounds lighter."

[Barghest1031]

When I saw the title my mind immediately said “well. . .fire  .. . Duh. .” XD

Seriously though, I HATE it when people call me something I’m not. I have no problem being called many things. . ..as long as it’s true at the time. IE- Calling me a liar when I’m not lying will get you chewed out. Calling me the term that rhymes with witch when I am being one is not likely to elicit much more than an agreement.

Also, any insults against my parents, brother, or close friends will generally end in violence or extremely harsh language against the person who dared utter the insult.

I’ve got a bit of a temper I’m afraid. 

[Twik]

I hate being told "Don't get in a snit".

There's something irritating about the sound of that word - SNIT! - that automatically triggers one in me.

[MerryRaven]

My DH has learned that he should never ever say in an annoyed tone, "What's your problem?"

[RoseRose]

When something true, but not so nice is said, and when I protest, "Well, it's true, isn't it?"

[Mrs. Eclipse]

People telling me I want to argue, or I want to be upset, when they're bullying me and saying really WRONG things ("You can't work in X department for Y reason" when I know PERFECTLY well that's not the case at all.)

No, I dont' want to argue, you just won't listen to my side of the story.  No, I don't want to be upset, you're being a bully.  I want to discuss things rationally like adults.  And I try, I really do.

  I've made myself sad

[mumma to KMC]

Referring to people with children as "irresponsible parents of the human variety" really really bugs me.

I agree!!

[MerryRaven]

Being called a 'irresponsible parent of the human variety' doesn't bother me at all.

I have therefore I am.

[Rei-chan]

Here's my top 3:

The customer is always right.

Shut up.

Having someone say "but, you're so nice!" when they find out I'm an atheist.

[MsEva]

I am a pretty literal person and don't tend to say things I don't mean nor do I exaggerate unless I'm joking around. Therefore I hate when I say something and am told that I really don't mean it or don't feel that way. I also can't stand when I say something that someone else misinterprets and then insists that I meant it in the way they thought, not in the way that I explained it to mean. Don't tell me what I feel or mean. 

[audrey1962]

"You wouldn't know about that, you're too young" and its opposite, "of course you can do that, you're young."

For example:
"Johnny Weissmuller once swam in this swimming pool, but you wouldn't know who he was, you're too young."
(The person telling me this was under 50, which makes her too young to have seen Tarzan in the 1930s, too. And I'm an avid fan of classic movies, especially those from the 20s and 30s, so yes, I know who he was).

"Of course you know how to do XXX on a computer, you've been using them since kindergarten. It's a lot harder if you don't learn them until you're older."
(I attended kindergarten in 1978. I don't recall having computers in the classroom. I learned how to use most programs in college, and yes, I struggled with the mouse at first, too).