This is the part I don't agree with. I HATED some of my roommates with a passion. But if I refused to live with them, I wouldn't have a place to live. Not much of a solution. So I put up with them while I was there.
Ultimate bad roommate. I was married to him. It took me a year and a half to get out of the situation. I am not saying you can necessarily just up and leave a bad roommate or bad family member. I think you have to make a goal to work toward getting out of a situation.
It is true you have to pay rent so you just can't quit a bad job, but you can make a goal to find another and redo your resume, start making contacts, answering ads etc. In other words take positive steps to improve the situation.
It is not just attitude. It is action.
I agree with that, in THEORY, but on the other hand......why should the person who's obviously in the right have to suffer the consequences of other people's bad behaviour? I had a bad roommate situation last semester, in which the other three girls had known each other before, and basically decided that they were a clique of three, and I was not part of their "inner circle," and therefore, I wasn't entitled to be treated the same way they treated each other. So, they were allowed to leave huge messes all over the apartment (dirty dishes, alcohol bottles, and bacon-greasy paper towels all over every horizontal surface, *my* DVD's on the floor, etc), play their music until the walls shook, not clean up after themselves if they were too busy/drunk/hungover/just plain lazy, but if I dared to walk with shoes on on a weekday morning, not close the door SILENTLY, speak when the TV was on (which was always), accidentally spill something, or express an opinion that was opposite to theirs, they'd read me the riot act. So, I moved out by the end of September, but it really wasn't entirely my decision. In fact, the old roommates left a "Freaky, this isn't working, you need to move" note on my door the day I was scheduled to move anyway.....so, I had to deal with all the hassle of packing up and setting up house all over again in the new apartment, while they got to just stay put...then later, they told me that they'd talked to the Rez Gods before I had, described ME as a horrible roommate, and they'd been trying to get me kicked out the whole time. So, if the Rez Gods have moved a fourth girl in there since then, I feel *so* sorry for her. But still, even though the situation got rectified in the end (I'm living with nice girls now, and one of them's in painting class with me), it's still not fair or ideal, because I ended up bearing ALL of the consequences, while my horrible roommates bore none of them.
(Edited to change "weekend morning" to "weekDAY" morning, when they should have been awake and getting ready for classes anyway).