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this is what happens when my husband does the laundry...
juliechan:
DH stayed home from work as he was not feeling well. When I got home this evening, dinner was "getting done" (with a sink-full of dirty utensils and greasy splatters all over the stove >:(), and some laundry had been done. Feeling very appreciative, I started putting away some of said laundry. That's when it happened...
Lo and behold, my favorite gray wool sweater, the one that saw me through two winters in Japan and was just the perfect size and shape, had been dried in the drier!!! :'( Needless to day, it is now the perfect size for a chihuahua. Not only that, but a blouse I'd bought with Xmas money from my dad was also ruined in the same fashion. It is made form hand-loomed, hand-dyed cotton, and was quite a splurge. I quietly remind him that we've experienced this same phenomenon with him drying wool in the dryer. His response?
"Well, I only own clothes that can be washed and dried by machine (BS, I lay out his wool sweaters all the time). I don't have time to read washing instructions. Maybe you should get a hamper for just your delicates..."
Riiiiiiiiight. But he has PLENTY of time to play World of Warcraft for 12 hours, and meanwhile the catbox could do with a scooping... Why is it that every time he "helps", it just makes more work for me?! >:( Bastard!
Shoo:
Oh, sister, I hear (and feel for) you.
My dh has ruined exactly one load of laundry in all the years we've been married. I set him straight that one time, and now when he does laundry, if there's anything, I mean anything questionable at all, he sets it aside and doesn't touch it.
How long have you been married? If your dh is still young, there may be hope for him. One thing for sure: you've got to make it absolutely clear that he is to never wash anything of yours again that even remotely looks like it might need special care. Socks, towels, t-shirts, etc. - fine. Other stuff? Hands off. But do it lovingly if you can, because he may just use this episode as an excuse to never do laundry again. Can't have that!
Lisbeth:
--- Quote from: juliechan on January 24, 2007, 09:13:16 PM ---DH stayed home from work as he was not feeling well. When I got home this evening, dinner was "getting done" (with a sink-full of dirty utensils and greasy splatters all over the stove >:(), and some laundry had been done. Feeling very appreciative, I started putting away some of said laundry. That's when it happened...
Lo and behold, my favorite gray wool sweater, the one that saw me through two winters in Japan and was just the perfect size and shape, had been dried in the drier!!! :'( Needless to day, it is now the perfect size for a chihuahua. Not only that, but a blouse I'd bought with Xmas money from my dad was also ruined in the same fashion. It is made form hand-loomed, hand-dyed cotton, and was quite a splurge. I quietly remind him that we've experienced this same phenomenon with him drying wool in the dryer. His response?
"Well, I only own clothes that can be washed and dried by machine (BS, I lay out his wool sweaters all the time). I don't have time to read washing instructions. Maybe you should get a hamper for just your delicates..."
Riiiiiiiiight. But he has PLENTY of time to play World of Warcraft for 12 hours, and meanwhile the catbox could do with a scooping... Why is it that every time he "helps", it just makes more work for me?! >:( Bastard!
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Ask him how he'd feel if you destroyed his property because you "don't have time to read instructions" on its care. If he's still indifferent, I'd think about the long-term implications for his disrespect for you on your marriage.
Niphil:
I'd let him wash his wool sweaters. :P
Other than that, I'm not sure what advice to give. I don't throw wool into the hampers because I'll end up accidentally felting it or shrinking it. This might be why I don't own any - anymore.
LuckyDucky:
Julie,
Hugs for you. When my husband decides to help me a cook dinner, i end up doing it anyway. It goes a little like this.
RedNut: honey, i am going to cook tonight, you just sit down and relax.
So i settle myself on the couch.
Various noises from the kitchen
RedNut: where is the frypan? you know the green one?
Me: in the bottom draw next to the sink.
The pattern continues for every utensil and ingredient he needs.
RN: How do you usually do this?
So in I go to show him. After 5 minutes, i am magically left cooking dinner while he toddles off to relax.
I have vowed that my sons are going to be able to cook, clean, wash clothes and iron without making more work for their SO.
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