I am in a situation and trying to tread lightly and not hurt feelings, but I think only a blunt and almost rude NO is going to get me out of it.
My daughters Brownie leader, whom I have only met one month ago and do not consider a friend by any means, has asked me to watch her child every Sunday from 6 a.m. till Monday morning while she works.
Monday morning I would be responsible for getting her daughter off to school, along with my other two girls since her mother won't get home till after she leaves. She will be having breakfast/lunch/dinner/snacks at my home, and will have to shower and do homework here as well.
Mom is a paramedic, and works 24 hour shifts. Thid third shift she's working is all overtime, since two shifts already gave her 48 hours on the clock.
Her current babysitter is tired of watching her daughter, (for free, which I heard through the grapevine at the school) so she asked me to do it. For free. No money was ever discussed while we talked about the arrangements. I kept waiting for her to bring it up, but she never did. If she offered even 20.00 I might have considered it, but to assume that I would do it for free when I don't even know her really ticked me off.
I don't want to watch her daughter. Sunday is the only day all of us are home together, unless I'm working the occasional Sunday, and I try to make it nice for all of us. We usually watch a movie together or do something else, and I don't want another person here that is not family or close friend.
Another reason is that Sunday is the only day we really get to sleep in, and I don't want to give that up for an acquaintence. For a good friend like my neighbors I'd do it no questions asked, but for a stranger no way.
My hubby works long hours, and Sunday is his day to "veg", and he won't feel comfortable with a strange kid here either.
The mother called me today wondering if I "was still" (assuming incorrectly that I was) going to watch her daughter on Sundays, and I told her no, that we wouldn't be able to. She then tried to get me to watch her from 6 a.m. till 3 p.m. every other Sunday, and to tell my hubby that he'd only have to watch her till 3 if I had to work that day. I told her I'd talk it over with hubby.
The pushiness is getting to me. She's already hit me up to be co-leader of the Brownie troop once a month, and the cookie mom for the troop since nobody else has volunteered. I don't mind helping out at all, but I feel like this lady will suck the life out of me if I let her have another inch/hour of my time.
Help with responses to the babysitting please.
No is just not working.
The mother that asked me to babysit also has a mother that lives nearby but is "unavailable" to babysit her grandaughter. I didn't ask particular reasons why, but I'm assuming they're not on good terms.