I'm confused...
I don't like slash because the characters usually aren't g*a*y. But I don't mind them if the relationship, or sexual orientation, is canon. For example, Haruka/Sailor Uranus and Michiru/Sailor Neptune, or Touya and Yukito from Cardcaptor Sakura. Is that bad? 
Well, slash is a whole different kettle of fish... if the characters are g*a*y in canon, then it's not technically slash. Slash is a NON-CANONICAL pairing. It's like reading
Queer as Folk slash: what's the point when you can put in the DVD and see the hot naked guys? I like putting the characters into romantic situations (such as falling in love with another man for the first time) that wouldn't be shown in the series. To me, doing that and making it believable is the challenge, and I love to read stories where that happens. It's the aspect of keeping them in character as much as possible while adding this extra dimension.
But, I think I confused you when I wrote:
All slash is technically not kosher; to hate one particular type because of one's own prejudices just shows how nearsighted a person is.
Because what I MEANT to write is, "All FAN FICTION is technically not kosher..." I meant that people pick slash to hate and say we're distorting the characters, yadda, but really no fanfic is technically "allowed", so ALL fan writers are distorting the views of the people who make the show. So when someone says that I'm a pervert for writing slash but that het is okay, they're a hypocrite.
RoseRose, I think, wrote:
I think, reading T'Mar's entire post, that she's talking about hating it, then going on and reading and bashing it. I could be wrong, though.
No, you're totally right. That's what I meant. So the main idea is: Hate slash? Don't read it! But don't knowingly read it in order to tell the author how sick they are. That's like going to a movie with an actor you hate and complaining the whole way through. Why not just go to a movie with an actor you like instead?
Hope that clears things up.