First of all, let me say that there are 0-Zero toxic issues between my mom and I. I have the best family in the world.
That being said, I think my mom may be a bit clueless towards my husband. We've been together at least 7 years, engaged for 18 months and now married 3 months. First few christmases, he'd come over to celebrate with us and he'd receive a token present. a few years ago, I'd open some of my gifts and see that they would be useful to both of us and say, "Look what mom and dad got us" Despite it only being my name on the tag. The year after I started telling my mom that any gift that could go to both of us (such as a vacuum etc) she can put both of our names on the tag. I don't think she did, but now she has started to get my DH more than a token gift.
However, he doesn't have a stocking to open at our house (I have one at his house). Do I ask my mom to get one for him? Do I get one for him and leave it at their house before christmas as a hint to her?
I am the first child out of my tight knit family to have a SO, so I think this borders on cluelessnes, but I still want to tred lightly. (MY DH did take my mom's baby away from her to a new city)