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Christmas Cards
« on: December 08, 2007, 06:23:07 AM »
I have a question for everyone, and if I am out of line, then you can send me to the bowels of EHell.

A little background here... our families have long since come to terms that DH and I are atheists. We don't go around announcing it, and we don't make it a topic of debate as we are not out to prove a point, make a statement, etc... We participate in Christmas festivities, go to christenings, church weddings, and are respectful of the beliefs of others... so it isn't a huge big deal and with the exception of a few of my relatives that really don't figure into this. Everyone respects everyone else and life goes on.

Though I am sporadic about it at best, this year, I chose to send Christmas cards in part because I would like to touch base with my family and friends back in the States (I live in the UK and this is my second Christmas away from home). When I addressed the cards, given that some friends cohabitate or otherwise have more than one last name in the same house, I simply put the last name on the envelope. For example: Jones/Smith rather than Mr. Jones and Ms. Smith. I did this on all the local cards as well.

DH just ran down to the post office to mail these, but not before lecturing me on not using Mr./Ms./or at least first names. Was I out of line here? Does it matter? Each card has a warm holiday greeting and a personal note inside, and for those that haven't seen us in a while, met our new dog, and would care enough to receive it, we have included a wallet sized family photo.

Just wondering...as you can imagine, Christmas cards aren't exactly my thing.

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Re: Christmas Cards
« Reply #1 on: December 08, 2007, 08:09:34 AM »
you should smile sweetly, turn to your DH, and say "you are right honey, that's why i think YOU should take care of the 'family correspondance' from now on.

Seriously? *I* don't think it matters and *I* wouldn't care and if anyone DOES care then they need to get a life. but then again i don't send out christmas cards.

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Re: Christmas Cards
« Reply #2 on: December 08, 2007, 09:00:49 AM »
you should smile sweetly, turn to your DH, and say "you are right honey, that's why i think YOU should take care of the 'family correspondance' from now on.

Seriously? *I* don't think it matters and *I* wouldn't care and if anyone DOES care then they need to get a life. but then again i don't send out christmas cards.



Cicero, I just read this to DH as I informed him I had posed the question to the forum, and was giggling the entire time. I was going to wait to respond to this because I would like to see as many takes on this as possible before I go posting every two minutes, but he got the point! Thanks.  ;D I had to share that. It was a classic moment.

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Re: Christmas Cards
« Reply #3 on: December 08, 2007, 11:13:19 AM »
Honestly, I'd be a little taken aback if I got a card just addressed to my last name.  I would wonder if I'd done anything to offend the person, because generally referring to someone by just their last name is considered curt and rude. (Or college frat boy. <g>)  As long as the rest of the card was normal, I probably wouldn't think about it long, but it would still make me pause.

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Re: Christmas Cards
« Reply #4 on: December 08, 2007, 11:42:33 AM »
In the return address I often just put our last name, but for the addressee, I put full names or at least first initials.  We get cards address to us by our last names in this way:  "The Victors", so that's another option for next year.  I wouldn't worry about it.  If it is a blunder, you both are guilty...he mailed them, didn't he?   >:D 
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Re: Christmas Cards
« Reply #5 on: December 08, 2007, 11:56:59 AM »
you should smile sweetly, turn to your DH, and say "you are right honey, that's why i think YOU should take care of the 'family correspondance' from now on.

Seriously? *I* don't think it matters and *I* wouldn't care and if anyone DOES care then they need to get a life. but then again i don't send out christmas cards.



Cicero, I just read this to DH as I informed him I had posed the question to the forum, and was giggling the entire time. I was going to wait to respond to this because I would like to see as many takes on this as possible before I go posting every two minutes, but he got the point! Thanks.  ;D I had to share that. It was a classic moment.

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Re: Christmas Cards
« Reply #6 on: December 08, 2007, 06:43:19 PM »
In the return address I often just put our last name, but for the addressee, I put full names or at least first initials.  We get cards address to us by our last names in this way:  "The Victors", so that's another option for next year.  I wouldn't worry about it.  If it is a blunder, you both are guilty...he mailed them, didn't he?   >:D 

I'll frequently send it out to "The Smiths" or "The Smith Family", particularly if there are kids instead of just a couple.  I used to LOVE getting cards that included me that way instead of being just addressed to my parents.  "The Smith/Jones Family" is an easy fix for mixed households.

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Re: Christmas Cards
« Reply #7 on: December 09, 2007, 08:34:58 AM »
Fair points all around, really. I doubt that any of the people receving these cards will be overly fussed over it, but I can understand KenveeB's point about being a bit put off too. It's just one of those things that I don't do often enough to have a standard format for the envelopes, plus, I am used to just putting our last name on the return address rather than Mr. and Mrs. evilbeagle.

But yeah, he did mail them.  >:D