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Chivewarrior

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The Continuing Dorm Saga: TV Entitlement
« on: January 28, 2007, 02:02:35 AM »
This happened on Thursday.

The dorm TVs operate on a first-come, first-serve basis. Unless, of course, the people who get there first are not declared "cool" by the witch. My friend, henceforth referred to as A, and I were there first, getting there right when school let out and laying claim to the TV with her DVDs of Alias. Then N entered a while later and demanded that we relinquish the TV to her. Didn't even ask politely, just said "You've had it for an hour and half, now get off and give me the TV." Yes, we'd been using it for a while, but her crowd had been using it every day from 4:15 to 7:00, and this was the first time A and I had taken it this year.

So I refused. I told her flat-out "No. We were here first, and if the positions were reversed, you wouldn't leave. So why should I do you any favors?" (I am sophomore, A and N are freshmen. A let me take the lead here for this reason.) At this point, N's friend S (a senior) came into it, on her side, telling me I had attitude. Imagine that, me, with attitude! I didn't develop attitude until a bit later in the story. A jumped in here and told S to get lost, whereupon S told her that this was between N and me, and to stay out of it. A asked her what she was doing, then, and S said that she was helping out someone cool. A said that that's what she was doing, too.

So we get into a really heated verbal clash, which I won't recount word-for-word because I don't remember all of it. Now we come to my etiquette breach, using that b-word. (Yes, I know, I should keep a better rein on my temper.) And she responds by saying that the last person to call her that got beat up within an inch of their life. Now, I know she can't do that to me in the middle of the dorm common room because I run rather than fight and dorm parents share a wall with the common room. They go away, we go back to watching. We finish our episode and leave them the TV, relocating to A's laptop, and probably would have moved right away if they'd asked politely.

I think N has a screw loose, though. This isn't the first example of weird behavior from her.

(We do have some basic, unwritten rules about fights like this one: it has to stay under the radar of the dorm parents at all costs. All participants in the fight will work together to that end or we'll all get in trouble, and probably the rest of the dorm too- including people who weren't even in the dorm, much less the room, at the time of the fight. The adults are bent on using peer pressure to stamp out fights, but really it just ensures that the adults never hear about the fights and thus are less aware of the problems- and they're so convinced that their eyes over the dorm are omniscent that they don't believe us when we tell them there are fights they don't see.)

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Re: The Continuing Dorm Saga: TV Entitlement
« Reply #1 on: January 28, 2007, 08:42:44 AM »
You know there are people like that in every dorm, workplace, platoon, commune and prison cellblock on Earth, so don't feel alone in your travails.

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Re: The Continuing Dorm Saga: TV Entitlement
« Reply #2 on: January 28, 2007, 09:30:14 AM »
One spring, for fall room assingments, we were lucky enough to have a SR sign up for our quad.  We were all music students and friends, and with a SR among us, got 1st pick of the dorms.
We got a good one, and a few days later, the basketball girls on team came to us in the music hall (bet they had to ask directions) and said, "we need the room you signed for because we're basketball players and need to get up really early for practice."
huh? 
We refused, and they got another room around the corner. 
Not a big deal, but I still laugh at the--
But we're basketball players! 

and how does that entitle you to a first-pick room?
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Re: The Continuing Dorm Saga: TV Entitlement
« Reply #3 on: January 28, 2007, 09:58:45 AM »
Not a big deal, but I still laugh at the--
But we're basketball players! 

and how does that entitle you to a first-pick room?

Prepare to cringe, some colleges seem to only encourage the entitlement amongst their all important jocks.   ::)  Back at my alma mater, class registration was extended to the sports' team members before everyone else.  They were apparently the number one priority.  So, you'd have classes that the football team figured would be an easy fun ride, and they'd fill the class up.  My senior year, I had to take ceramics to fill my graduation requirements (I was a Fine Arts major), and couldn't get in to the class due to it being full of jocks who thought it'd be a piece of cake.  After complaining to the dean, administration, and the only professor who taught ceramics, they finally kicked out all the non-art majors and minors.  There were about two weeks of stress before I actually knew I would be able to even get into the class, and from what I heard, I wasn't the only art major who had the same issue.  And for the record, ceramics under that professor was one of the hardest classes I took in college.  "Easy ride", my toosh.   ;) 

Anyway, back on topic...  OP, hang in there.  Just keep in mind that N and her herd apparently missed the lessons in preschool about sharing, and always using the magic word.  There are too many of those types in the world.  Try not to let them goad you into poor behavior, but don't always cave to them, either.  Oh, and you may want to start documenting this kind of crap, just in case.  Not to say that something may happen and they may escalate things, but you want to be sure you've got everything written down (time, date, what happened), just in case they do.  I know how vindictive some entitlement princesses can get, and should they pull something completely horrible, you're going to want a written record of everything they've done to prove that it was a long running issue.  You probably already are smart, but always ALWAYS lock your dorm room door.  Especially now.
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Re: The Continuing Dorm Saga: TV Entitlement
« Reply #4 on: January 28, 2007, 01:46:46 PM »
Ahh...the Entitlement Fairy visits again.

This girl threatened you with physical harm. Unfortunately, having adults in close proximity is no guarantee that this entitlement princess will hesitate before trying to beat the ever-loving snot out of you. If I were you, I would make a habit of not being caught off by myself - not even in the public restroom.

I would also inform the appropriate authorities - your dorm supervisors or whomever - about the threat. Make sure that the friend who saw and heard what happened also notifies these people. The more people go on record about this, the stronger your side will be.

I know, I know...the dorm admins won't do anything...they don't believe you...etc. Go on record anyway and be sure to watch your six.

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Re: The Continuing Dorm Saga: TV Entitlement
« Reply #5 on: January 28, 2007, 02:01:18 PM »
Are you not allowed to have TV's in your own room??  I'm very bemused by this whole scenario because it is so different for the situation in the US.  What a bummer to have to share a TV.  I think there would have been frequent mass murder at my University if we couldn't have TV's in our own rooms. 

As for the athletes getting first crack at class registration, at my University it was because they had to schedule around practices and weekly out of town road trips, that made their schedules much more inflexible than the average student. 

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Re: The Continuing Dorm Saga: TV Entitlement
« Reply #6 on: January 28, 2007, 04:59:49 PM »
Oh, we're allowed to have TVs. It's cable we can't get in our rooms, in which case having a TV won't do you much good, even assuming there's space for it in your room. I can't think of a single room with a layout where a TV would be convenient, except for a couple of the larger singles which house seniors only because they get first run of the rooms.

And I'm going to come clean about the entirety of the fight to the dorm associate as soon as I see him. (Probably Monday or Tuesday. Wednesday at the very latest.)