I gather form the OP that she will never have to work.
I agree that this is perhaps the cause of friction, not your nationality. I once met a young man who came from "old money," and the work ethic was instilled in all the children and grandchildren. The quickest way to be written out of the will, he said, was to mention that you'd be coming into money eventually, so you didn't have to take a career seriously.
"putting my life on hold while (I) wait around for (him) to marry me". He also said that the amount of time we spent together seemed unhealthy.
Actually, this is what my father would have said to me, if I neither worked not went to school, and my only activity was being available for my boyfriend. It sounds as if he actually is concerned for you.